Counseling Flashcards
Define counseling
A time-limited relationship in which counselors help clients increase their ability to deal with the demands of life
What are the 3 variables of counseling?
1) The need and wants of the client
2) The mandate of the counseling setting
3) The expertise and competence of the counselor
What are the 5 steps of the counseling process?
1) Establishing a relationship
2) Assessment
3) Setting goals
4) Interventions
5) Termination and follow-up
What is nutrition counseling?
- Client centered
- Individualized
- Collaborative
- A process
- Listening to the client, understanding the problem from the clients point of view, and enabling the client to take action to resolve their own problem
What is the immediate goal of counseling?
To provide assistance o that clients can gain control over their problems
What is the long term goal of counseling?
Restore or develop clients ability to cope with the changing demands of their lives (empowerment)
List 5 common counseling errors
1) Rigidity and use of a “one size fits all approach”
2) Insufficient attention to the counselor-client relationship
3) Advice giving
4) Absence of core conditions (empathy, attending, genuineness)
5) Loss of objectivity and judgemental responses
What are the four skill clusters for counseling?
1) Relationship building skills (empathy, active listening)
2) Exploring and probing skills (active listening, attending)
3) Empowering skills (identifying resources, defining problems as opportunities)
4) Challenging skills (confronting, setting limits)
What are the 5/10 basic counseling responses?
1) Attending (active listening)
2) Reflection (emphasizing)
3) Affirmation
4) Mirroring
5) Paraphrasing
What are the 10/10 basic counseling responses?
6) Clarifying (probing)
7) Noting a discrepancy (confrontation)
8) Directing (instructions)
9) Advice
10) disclosing
What is attending?
Attending is active listening. Where there is an ambiance created to facilitate meaningful communication, and involved giving individual attention to the client.-
–> Many attending behaviours are non-verbal
How can we be attending?
- Reorganize surroundings
- Sit down, face client squarely
- Adopt an open posture
- Lean towards client slightly, and make good eye contact
What are barriers to attending?
- Time constraints
- Temperature
- Noise
When we are talking, how many word per min?
100-200 words
When we are thinking, how many words per min?
600-800 words
What should be doing when thinking about what the client says during attending?
- Thinking about what the speaker says
- Summarizing key points
- Listening for feeling, and not only for content
- Looking for consistency and inconsistencies
What are some strategies for effective attending skills?
- Minimize distractions,, including environmental, from the client and WITHIN
- Delay judgement
- Listen to non-verbal
- Loo for incongruence between verbal and on-verbal
- practice empathetic listening
What kinds of helpers should we avoid being?
- Frenetic
- Self-centered
- Self-absorbed
What is reflective listening?
- Used by helpers to stimulate deeper exploration of the facts, feelings and meanings
- Forges empathetic bond
- Content, and emotional side are equally important
How are reflections phrased?
- Makes a guess about what the speaker means
- Good reflection is NOY phrased as a questions, but as a statement
Why should reflective listening NOT be phrased as a question?
- A question places a demand on the person for an answer
- Results in subtle pressure/micro-integration
- When we offer statements, the speaker keeps right on talking
What should be rephrased in reflecting?
- The affective (feelings)
- However, the feeling component of the message is often hidden because disclosure of feelings is bound by cultural and family rules
What are the four steps in reflecting meaning?
- Correctly identify the feeling being expressed
- Reflect the feeling you have identified to the client
- Match the intensity of your response to the level of feeling expressed by the client
- Respond to the feeling of your client, not the feeling of others
What is the reflecting meaning?
- A technique which helps users restate the personal impact and significance of the even that the client is describing
- Meaning is even deeper below our awareness than feelings
What are the two things that we can reflect?
- Feeling
- Meaning
What is the formula for reflecting feeling?
You felt ______ when ______ happened
Example of reflecting feeling?
You felt frustrated when you wouldn’t seem to make him understand
What is the formula for reflecting meaning?
You felt _____ because (meaning)
Example of reflecting meaning?
You felt angry with yourself because this was the way you were going to prove to your parents that you were a success
What is affirming?
- A type of reflection, but NOT a pep talk
- A positive statement regarding one’s character of values that acknowledges some strength and efforts