Coaching

Question 1

Coaching is empowering people. More accurately empowering themselves to see this, to awaken to see this:

Answer 1

Help empower people to see a new future that can happen if they are simply willing to put in what is necessary to create it.
Do this with excellence!
- a letter describing the future you see them creating
- A card…
- Sometimes facing their BS and excuses
- An object lesson

Question 2

Our Chief Want in Life

Quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson

Answer 2

“Somebody who will make us do what we can”

Question 3

The Most Helpful Thing We can Do For People

Nathaniel Branden

Answer 3

“I am convinced that one of the most helpful things we can do for people is to REFUSE to buy into their inappropriately restricted views of their limitations.”

Question 4

What to look for in new clients? Tune up your WILLINGNESS radar when coaching. See this…call their attention to this.

Answer 4

Don’t spend an extra moment with people who are content and in default mode and unwilling to create something new. Go after people who are ready for a jet propulsion engine.
Are they willing to put in the work. Tune up your “willingness” radar. To see willingness!

Question 5

Coaching is all about these three things:

Answer 5

Coaching is all about pulling someone’s heart and soul out, helping them look at it (without judgment) and being honest about whether they are living up to their fullest potential.

Question 6

The Intelligence of Offending People When Coaching

Answer 6

Never avoid offending your client in your commitment to love, serve and believe in them.

Say it with love and what is true for you. Deliver with conviction, powerfully.

Learn the Art of Saying to People What no one Else will Say

Question 7

Provocation, Coaching and Waking People Up

Answer 7

I enjoy provoking people so that they wake up, stand up, and start speaking up for themselves, otherwise we just lie there.

The core Buddhist teaching is a person must wake up from their sleepwalking life to be able realize their true Self and see the true Self in others. The term Buddha actually means, “one who is awake.”

Coaching is not about delivering expert advice or downloading all your wisdom. It’s about provocation.

There is great value in provocation vs advice!

Sometimes it takes a 2x4 to get a clients attention.d

Question 8

Michelangelo and Truly Great Coaching

Answer 8

The Awakening Slave Sculpture-

Michelangelo, “ I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free”

Coaching, when truly great, does that too.

Transformation more often involves taking things away instead of continuously trying to add things.

Question 9

Power is the person’s capacity to produce a change.

Re-invention is a person’s capacity to tap into that power.

This equally true for businesses and organizations

Answer 9

Coach people to be powerful.

Power is a person’s capacity to produce a change. Help clients to cultivate their personal power of self, service, productivity and prosperity.

Question 10

Great Coaching Always Help Their Clients Remember and Reinforce This one Thing:

Answer 10

Coaches always help client address the WHY.

Coaches helps connect you to your own purpose. That’s the real coaching connection.

People forget who they are, what they want, what they believe is possible, and why they want it. They lose sight of what creates results that lead to joy and fulfilment.

Coaching always brings them back to their core.
Our first assignment is to connect my clients to their hidden momentum AND often, DISCONNECT them from their damaged, disconnected “personalities”
Ie- African tribal song for a child.

Purposes produces amazing energy and momentum

We either live from purpose or personality.
(Article in Steve Chandler’s coaxing connection book chapter 30)

Question 11

Great coaching helps people wake up and come alive again to their innate, pre-existing drive to CREATE.

Answer 11

Great coaches finds ways to help clients tap into their pre-existing drive to create and allow that to come alive again to their capacity to CREATE.

The client describes a problem and the coach can simply ask “given that problem, what would you like to create ?

Question 12

Great coaching is creating a partnership. It REQUIRES a partnership!

Answer 12

A partnership is two people co-creating a vision and then executing the vision by agreement.

Great coaches create agreements and results.

Question 13

Thee BIG Answer (Solution) to Coaches, Leaders, Consultants, Complaints about Disengaged Owners, crappy dieters, clients being non-committed is understanding the distinction between Agreements and Expectations.

Answer 13

Great coaches stop being disappointed and stop complaining when they start leading from co-created, air-tight agreements and drop the whole expectation thing.

Expectations lead to complaints, which lead to resentments, which eventually become irreconcilable differences.

People will not live up to your expectations, but will go to many lengths to keep their promises, their word, their agreements.

Question 14

Coaching Agreements are fun and creative work of Art.

Answer 14

Agreements are two people designing a work of art together

Question 15

The Power of Difference-Making

How to make a Real Difference

Stop Trying to Come Across and Start Making a Difference- make meaning by making it meaningful

Answer 15

Suicidal people all have one thing in common. From the linguistics of suicide.
Their state of mind was they didn’t feel they were making any difference, in their opinion.
Helping people make a difference no matter how small and they KNEW they were making a difference. Their lives actually become‘meaningful’.

“If something makes NO difference, it has no meaning!”

“Meaning is the difference something makes. If it makes no difference it has no meaning!”
Difference making is also the key to coaching, creating wealth, creating clients, customers, and creating life you want.

Great coaching then is making a difference in clients BY helping them make a difference, making meaning in their lives

Be a creator of difference- making! Be a creator of making meaning.

Question 16

The Miracle if Reality

Everything comes from having become clear.

Answer 16

“The faster a person gets in touch with REALITY, the faster they will succeed.

Facing reality is always the first step! No transformation is possible until a person comes to grips with their own bull shit.

Getting real is the spring board, sling shot of rapid transformation.

Show me anyone in touch with reality and I will show you some who succeeds. Radical honesty is a launch pad for rocket fuel energy.

Question 17

Coaching is such a powerful and practical reality WHEN…

Answer 17

BOTH coach and client COMMIT to creating transformation.

It’s becomes useless, even frustrating when one or the other is NOT committed to the the transformation and no agreements have been clarified and made.

Question 18

The 17 Promises

These promises have jet in my life.

People do change.

Answer 18

“If we are painstaking about these phases of our development, we WILL be amazed before we are halfway through. We are going to KNOW a new freedom and new happiness. We WILL not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We WILL comprehend the word serenity and we WILL know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we WILL see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self pity will disappear. We WILL lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking WILL slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear if people and of economic insecurity WILL leave us. We WILL intuitively know how to handle situations that used to battle and baffle us. We WILL suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves. Are the extravagant, impossible PROMISES? We thin not! They are being fulfilled among us- sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They WILL always materialize IF we work them!”

How many promises? ( 17 )

Question 19

The Power of Commitment

The power if keeping your word, of keeping promises made.

Answer 19

This is creating your life by what we speak. Our language is generative not merely descriptive. This is creativity at its finest.

What do I want to create today? My day is our opportunity.

Question 20

To help your clients get it, help them see it!

Answer 20

How?

Use vivid parables, vivid visuals, metaphors, illustrations, and object lessons
- movies, books, games, etc

Question 21

Coaching the BODY, Mind and spirit.

Coaching AND exercise are both about developing the power to make and keep commitments, which becomes our core integrity.

Answer 21

Help your clients feel the learning. To get it by moving their body.

Richard Branson(virgin fame), in answer to the question, how to be more productive?

Work out!

A good coach isn’t afraid to move your body.

Re- introduce your clients to their body. Most clients are experiencing body neglect.

Most of our overweight clients are struggling with their bodies.

There is an important body-mind connection. They want to create something magnificent but they are being stopped by their bodies.

Help them work in their core, both their physical core and their inner core

Change your body- change your life!

Question 22

Counselling vs Coaching

Advice-giving vs Empowering

Answer 22

Counselling helps people through their weaknesses. Equipping/coaching helps people work on and from their strengths.

Coach people to not only work on but to soar with your strengths

That’s more about innate capacity and potential rather than fixing something broken.

Powering life Possible!

Question 23

Metaphors of capacity

Answer 23

The Rabbit School parable

JFK speech/ throwing hat over the wall

Blowing cap off capacity

Life is a 10 speed bike. Most of us have gears we never use Charles Schulz / Peanuts

Question 24

Self awareness questions and limiting factors

Excuses
Talk without listening 
Unresolved negative emotions 
Habitual self distraction 
Little personal reflection 
Unwilling to pay the price

Being stuck at a certain level and unable to go deeper(reflection/awareness), go farther(comfort zone) and go higher(vision)

Without self awareness, you will be stuck in life and unable to move forward.

This requires another person’s help. A coach

Answer 24

Is their hunger for growth mindset or is it fixed?

What’s missing?

What don’t I know?

What are my blind spots?

What’s holding me back?

What is my potential?

Question 25

The Coach’s Currency and Collateral is Conversations

Answer 25

What are the key conversations of IP Diet coaches

Question 26

Helping People Change

Coaching with compassion for lifelong learning and growth

Answer 26

The best way to help others learn, grow and change is by helping them move closer to their ideal self- their dreams, and visions of their ideal future.

Help them invest time reflecting, clarifying, articulating the details of personal vision and try to separate heart felt desires from shoulda, woulda, coulda.

The magic mental Toughness question is what to you really really really want?

Question 27

Coaches paint on the canvases of personal dreams, desires and vision

Answer 27

Our job is to watch people, listen to them, see them, hear them, figure out what they dream of and then create a transformation and transaction that can deliver that feeling.

When people don’t act as you expected them to, look for their fear

It’s difficult to dream of anything when you think about bring eaten by a grizzly. Even a made up one.

What do you really really want? Respect, successful independent maybe little famous, appreciated noticed, seen.

Question 28

3 specific Transformational Changes

Coaches Help Create in PeopleSeeking Help

Answer 28

1. People will discover, reaffirm and articulate their personal vision , including dreams, passion, purpose, beliefs and values.
2. People will experience changes in behaviour, thoughts, and/or feelings that will move them closer to realizing their personal vision.
3. People will build or maintain a resonate relationship with the coach, helper, and with other supportive people in their lives.

The driving, sustaining force of significant transformational change (ie social justice of being black in America) was b/c the ALWAYs, ALWAYS, repeatedly drew on :

• Core values and beliefs
• belief in God, American constitution, humanism, children deserve a better world/future

Survival yes! But more Shared vision. , values, beliefs and dreams

I have a dream speech.

Question 29

The Transformative Conversation

It’s a meaningful conversation about the nature of human experience.

The Human experience is that which us tru for all human beings.

Answer 29

“As coaches we have the most wonderful job in the world. We find people in various stages of sleep. And then we get to tap them on the shoulder and be with them as they wake up to the full magnificence of life”

Sydney Banks

Question 30

Elements of Transformative Conversations

Answer 30

1. Slow down enough to notice this world Of Deeper feeling that is hard to describe and define- space where miracles happen. It is always available to us.
2. Instead of looking at all the details of our current life and circumstances to make sense of our experience(s), we direct our focus inward to the source and nature of that experience.

Being able to see Our experiences are being Created from the inside out.

This is the gift of deeper understanding

3. The transformative conversation is also psychological and spiritual by nature

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience

By French Jesuit, Teilhard de Chardin

Question 31

Transformative conversations helps people in enjoying the present and creating the future.

Assists clients to tap into their own inner senses and inner genius.

Answer 31

Instead of giving people what they say they want, a transformative coach assists/teaches you how to get it for yourself

We act as a change catalyst to bringing out our clients inner genius to life.

Help people learn to unleash their inner genie.

Learn the keys to knowing, trusting, inspiring, loving yourself (the 4 pillars of an extraordinary life.

Question 32

Courage to Coach

Answer 32

Hard thinking and soul searching about the fundamental value and purpose of what we do as coaches

Going deeper involves purpose, passion, Hope.

What’s worth fighting for