Chapter six

Question 1

What is involved with the three steps in the development of a relationship?

Answer 1

• -becoming aware of other person
• -making contact or getting aquainted
• -disclosure

Question 2

Explain the importance of similarities, proximity, complementaryity, social exchange theory and recciprocity in the development of frienships?

Answer 2

Similarities: we are drawn to those who are similar to us
(similar beliefs/attitudes are most important aspects of relationship to keep relationship together for time)

Proximity:places close to you

complementary: those with complementary needs are drawn to each other

social exchange: we measure our actions and relationships on a coset-benefit basis. People maximize their rewards and minimize thier costs to gain favorable outcomes

reciprocity: we like peopple who are like us

Question 3

Describe Sternberg’s theroy of love

Answer 3

–love is made up of passion (intense desire for one another), intimacy (feelings that one can share all thoughts and actions with other), and committment (willingness to stay together through thick and thin)

Question 4

What are the 7 types of love from Sternbergs theory?

Answer 4

--liking (intimacy alone), 
romantic (intimacy and passion), 
compassionate (intimacy and commitment), 
consummate (all 3)
 infatuation (passion alone)
empty (commitment alone)
fatuous (passion and commitment)

Question 5

describe the positvie and negative aspects of cohabitation?

Answer 5

positive: “pre-marriage trial”
negative: those who cohabbitate are at higher risk of divorce

Question 6

Discuss Dr. Gary Chapmans Five Love Languages

Answer 6

words of affirmation
quality time
receiving gifts
acts of service and physical touch

Question 7

Explain the 5:1 ratio?

Answer 7

Indicates that most relationships will be successful as long as couples maintain the five-to-one ratio of positive responses to negative responses

Question 8

What are the four negative emotions John Gottman feels are more toxic than others?

Answer 8

• stone walling
• contempt
• criticism
• defensivness

Question 9

What is the current estimate of how many marriages will end in divorce?

Answer 9

40-50%

Question 10

Discuss how role expectations– child care, career, and work– responsibilities can impact a relationship

Answer 10

• -Hard to split roles when married
• -most women have the most roles even when having a job outside the home
• -the more two partners agree about marital roles the more likely the marriage will last longer