Chapter 6 Flashcards
What are Weiss six provisions of a relationship?
belonging and a sense of reliable alliance, EMotional integration and stability, opportunity to talk about yourself, provision of physical support/reassurance of worth and value, opportunity to help others
belonging and a sense of reliable alliance
To sense someone is “there for you”
EMotional integration and stability
supporting each other and offering advice
opportunity to talk about yourself
A sense of being known is what makes relationships rewarding
opportunity to help others
we like to be there for others because when people look to you then they value your view of something
provision of physical support/reassurance of worth and value
actions done for you and youdo for others
social relationships
people that are interchangeable and perform certain functions
personal relationships
friendships and family
relational continuity constructional units
a means of recognizing and recording the fact that the relationship is still continuing even when the partners are not face-to-face and may be apart from one another
prospective unit
provide recognition that an absence is about to begin
introspective units
recognize that an absence is happening
retrospective units
direct signals of the end of an abscense
first filter
apperance
second filter
behavior and NVC
third filter
roles
fourth filter
psychological similarity
serial construction of meaning
ducks model that deals with how to people come to understand and appriciate one another through talk- commonality of experience, mutuality, equivelance of evaluation, sharing of meaning.
commonality of experience
have the same experience but havent discussed it
mutuality
to talk about having the same experience
equivalence of evaluation
to have experienced the same event and felt the same way about it
sharing of meaning
place the event in the same world of meaning relative to other events and experiences
intrapsychic process
consider ending a relationship after reflecting on pros and cons
dyadic process
confrontoing partner and openly discussing the problem
social process
tell other people about issues in relationship seeking help or support
grave dressing process
creating the story of why a relationship died and erecting a summary
resurrection process
how to prepare for a new relationship after ending an old one
chart on page 163
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autonomy-connectedness
independent but connected
openness-privacy
need privacy but honestly as well
