Chapter 11: Attraction and Intimacy

Question 1

Ostracized

Answer 1

an extreme form of rejection in which one is excluded and ignored in the presence of others

Question 2

Proximity

Answer 2

functional distance, powerfully predicts liking

Question 3

Mere exposure

Answer 3

people tend to develop a preference for things merely because they are familiar with them

Question 4

Matching phenomenon

Answer 4

The tendency for men and women to choose as partners those who are a “good match” in attractiveness and other traits

Question 5

Physical-attractiveness stereotype

Answer 5

The presumption that physically attractive people possess other socially desirable traits as well

Question 6

Similarity vs complementarity

Answer 6

Similarity appears to play a strong role in initial attraction generally and more specifically in terms of personality traits,

complementarity of needs and roles also appear to play a strong role in relationship continuation and success in ongoing relationships

Question 7

Ingratiation

Answer 7

The use of strategies, such as flattery, by which people seek to gain another’s favor

Question 8

Reward theory of attraction

Answer 8

The theory that we like those whose behavior is rewarding to us or whom we associate with rewarding events

Question 9

Passionate love

Answer 9

A state of intense longing for union with another. Passionate lovers are absorbed in each other, feel ecstatic at attaining their partner’s love, and are disconsolate on losing it

Question 10

Companionate love

Answer 10

The affection we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply intertwined

Question 11

Secure attachment

Answer 11

Attachments rooted in trust and marked by intimacy

Question 12

Avoidant attachment

Answer 12

Attachments marked by discomfort over, or resistance to, being close to others.

Question 13

Anxious attachment

Answer 13

Attachments marked by anxiety or ambivalence

Question 14

Disclosure reciprocity

Answer 14

process by which an individual unveils personal information as a response to the disclosure of another individual

Question 15

Equity

Answer 15

A condition in which the outcomes people receive from a relationship are proportional to what they contribute to it.

Note: Equitable outcomes needn’t always be equal outcomes,

Question 16

Detachment

Answer 16

a feeling of emotional freedom resulting from a lack of involvement in a problem or situation or with a person.