Ch 9

Question 1

Social exchange

Answer 1

Seek out people who can give us rewards that are greater than or equal to the costs we encounter in dealing with the relationship.

Question 2

Comparison level

Answer 2

Minimal standard of what behavior is acceptable

Question 3

Comparison level of alternatives

Answer 3

Standard that compares the rewards one receives in a current relationship with what could be expected in other situations

Question 4

Relational maintenance

Answer 4

Keeping relationships operating smoothly and satisfactorily

Question 5

Initiating

Answer 5

Show that you are interested in making contact and to demonstrate that you are a person worth talking to

Question 6

Experimenting

Answer 6

The search for common ground

Question 7

Intensifying

Answer 7

Communicators increase their amount of contact and the breadth and depth of their self disclosure.

Question 8

Integrating

Answer 8

Couples merge their social circles and identities commitments and properties may be shared

Question 9

Bonding

Answer 9

Stage where couples make symbolic public gestures to the world that their relationship exists and are committed

Question 10

Differentiating

Answer 10

Partners start to reestablish individual identities

Question 11

Circumscribing

Answer 11

Partners reduce the scope of their contact with each other.

Question 12

Stagnating

Answer 12

Circumscribing continues and no new growth occurs

Question 13

Avoiding

Answer 13

People in a relationship create distance between each other

Question 14

Terminating

Answer 14

End of relationship

Question 15

Dialectical tensions

Answer 15

Conflicts that arise when 2 opposing or incompatible desires exist simultaneously in a relationship

Question 16

Integration separation dialect

Answer 16

Conflicting desires for connection and independence

Question 17

Connection autonomy dialect

Answer 17

Close to others but at the same time seek independence

Question 18

Inclusion seclusion dialect

Answer 18

Reconcile a desire for both involvement with others outside the relationship and time together within the relationship

Question 19

Stability change dialect

Answer 19

Stability is important in relationships but too much of it can lead to feelings of staleness

Question 20

Predictability novelty dialect

Answer 20

Tension in a relationship between wanting a predictable partner and not wanting to be bored

Question 21

Conventionality uniqueness dialect

Answer 21

Captures the challenges that people in a relationship face when trying to meet others expectations while being true to themselves

Question 22

Expression privacy dialect

Answer 22

Captures the desire for both intimacy and the need to maintain some space between ourselves and others

Question 23

Openness closedness dialect

Answer 23

Internal struggle between expression and privacy

Question 24

Revelation concealment dialect

Answer 24

External expression of the conflict between openness and privacy

Question 25

Meta communication

Answer 25

Messages that refer to other messages

Question 26

Social support

Answer 26

Helping others through challenging times by providing emotional informational or instrumental resources

Question 27

Relational transgressions

Answer 27

When one partner violates the explicit or implicit terms of the relationship, letting the other down in some important way