Attraction, love, relationships, communication 5-7 Q Flashcards
On the heterosexuality and homosexuality continuum name the labels of each number
0- exclusively hetero
1- hetero with 1-2 homo experiences
2- predominanetly hetero with occasional homo experiences
3- bisexual
4- predominanetly homo with occasional hetero experiences
5- homo with 1-2 hetero experiences
6- exclusively homo
What are the 3 things on KINSEY’s orientation scale?
behaviour
feelings
fantasy
On KINSEY’s orientation scale what # is hetero? homo?
hetero = 0 homo = 6
What is the attraction-similarity hypothesis?
we are attracted to other who are similar to ourselves in physical attractiveness and other traits
What is propinquity?
we develop relationships within our life bubble
What is reciprocity?
we like people who like us
Do opposites attract?
no
What are the 3 parts of the social-influence theory?
- attractiveness
- trustworthiness
- competence
Explain attractiveness as it related to the social influence theory?
appearance, character and profession
behaviours and perceived similarities
Explain trustworthiness as it relates to social-influence theory?
confidentiality, credibility and profession
use of power and understanding
Explain competence as it relates to the social influence theory?
related to role, reputation, behaviour and accomplishment
What are the 4 concepts related to the modern meanings of love created by the greeks?
storge, agape, philia and eros
What is storge?
loving attachment, deep friendship or nonsexual affection
What is agape?
similar to generosity or charity
What is philia?
closest in meaning to friendship
What is eros?
closest in meaning to our concept of passion
What are the 6 styles of love described by CLYDE and SUSAN HENDRICK?
1986
- romantic love (eros)
- game playing love (ludus)
- friendship love (storge, philia)
- logical love (pragma)
- possessive, excited love (mania)
- selfless love (agape)
What are the common bonds of friends and lovers?
- nurturance
- security
- mutual good
- enhancement of well being
- trust
What are the 6 parts of a love relationship?
- fascination
- exclusiveness
- sexual desire
- giving utmost
- being champion
- being advocate
What are the 8 parts of a friendship?
- enjoyment
- confiding
- acceptance
- understanding
- trust
- spontaneity
- respect
- mutual assistance
What are the 3 parts of STERNBERG’s triangular love theory?
- intimacy
- passion
- decision/commitment
What is the definition of intimacy in STERNBERG’s triangular love theory?
the experience of warmth toward another person that arises from feelings of closeness, bondedness and connectedness
What is the definition of passion in STERNBERG’s triangular love theory?
an intense romantic or sexual desire for another person, which is accompanied by physiological arousal
What is the definition of decision/commitment in STERNBERG’s triangular love theory?
a component of love that involves both short and long term issues
What are the 8 types of love relationships?
- non love
- liking and intimacy
- infatuation and passion
- empty love and commitment
- intimacy and romantic love and passion
- commitment and fatous love and passion
- commitment and intimacy and companion love
- commitment, consumate love and passion and intimacy
What are the ABCs of romantic love?
Attraction Building Continuation Deterioration Ending
What are the 6 components of passionate love?
- emotionally and intense
- focus on one’s life
- highly sexualized feelings
- sexual activity may be present
- fear of rejection
- relationship feels unstable
What are the 6 components of compassionate love?
- emotionally less intense
- a focus of one’s life
- less highly sexualized feelings
- sexual activity may be present
- emotional trust
- relationship feels strong and stable
What are the 5 stages of a couple’s journey?
- romance
- power struggle
- stability
- commitment
- co-creation
Describe the romance stage of a couple’s journey?
sense possibilities and create a shared vision
Describe the power struggle stage of a couple’s journey?
learn to recognize and validate differing needs and perception
learn to say who we are and ask for what we want
Describe the stability stage of a couple’s journey?
learn to take responsibility and expand sense of identity through dialogue with each other
Describe the commitment stage of a couple’s journey?
experience ourselves as interdependent
learn to live with paradoxes and insoluble dilemmas
Describe the co-creation stage of a couple’s journey?
learn to create our own universe and work toward a better world
interdependent with all of life
Fill in the blanks: most problems in relationships can be viewed as resistances to getting _____ or more ______
most problems in relationships can be viewed as resistances to getting closer or more independent
What are the 4 types of communication fears?
- speaking out
- fighting
- intimacy
- commitment
What is the fear of speaking out?
fear of sounding silly or being rejected
What is the fear of fighting?
belief that fighting means the relationship cannot work
What is the fear of intimacy?
unable to reveal inner self, afraid of ridicule or rejection
what is the fear of commitment?
afraid of failure, difficulty saying no, lack of confidence
What are the 5 steps to procedure setting?
- establish agreement on what you want to talk about
- clarify whose issue it is
- determine who is involved
- pick a suitable time, include length of time and termination method
- select an appropriate time
