Attraction and Relationships Flashcards
what causes attraction?
- propinquity effect
- similarity
- reciprocal liking
- physical attractiveness
propinquity effect
- the more we see and interact with people, the more likely they are to become our friends
- works because of familiarity, or mere exposure effect
- attraction + propinquity rely on actual physical distance + functional distance
mere exposure effect
the more exposure we have to a stimulus, the more apt we are to like it
functional distance
- aspect of architectural design
- make it likely some people will come into contact with each other more often than others
similarity
- more drawn to people that look like us than those who are opposites (complimentary)
- strong predictor of attraction in friendship + romance
similarity is a strong of attraction in friendship + romance, especially __________
- in attitudes and values
- in individualistic cultures
importance of similarity for attraction
- we expect those similar to us to like us
- those similar to us provide social validation of our beliefs
- we expect it would be enjoyable to spend time with like-minded people
can attraction lead to a sense of similarity?
- YES
- studied married couples showed they overestimated their levels of similarity
- perceived similarity is a good predictor for long, committed relationships
reciprocal liking
- liking someone who likes us in return
- one of prime determinants of interpersonal attraction
- will only have an effect if you like yourself before
physical attractiveness
- strongly influences liking
- we may not rate attractiveness as #1 criterion, but B indicates it is
- preference for:
1. large eyes
2. prominent cheekbones
3. big smile
cultural standards of physical attractiveness
- considerable agreement across cultures on what is a physically attractive face
- perception of symmetry = correlated with attractiveness
- may have developed through evolution (signs of a potentially healthy offspring)
assumptions about attractive people: halo effect
- assumed that attractive people have desirable qualities
- often get preferential treatment
- “what is beautiful is good” stereotype
- occurs cross-culturally
- seems to be limited to judgments of social competency
assumptions about unattractive people: horn effect
perceiving 1 unattractive quality in a person can lead us to believe that they possess undesirable characteristics
misattribution of arousal
- people may mistakenly infer the cause of their physiological arousal is attraction
- sweating, trembling, elevated heart rate, anticipation
friends + the digital world
- social media plays major roles in shaping friendship (introverted vs extroverted)
- online/offline relationships can be beneficial
- people prefer real world relationships
romance + the digital world
- people often disclose personal information more quickly online rather than face to face
- success rate of online dates = traditional methods
parasocial interaction theory
- parasocial relationships through parasocial interactions = illusionary relationships with characters or people in media
- influential in middle childhood and adolescence (important for attachment dev and identity formation)
- can be complementary with real-life relationships
- increase through increase of social media use
extreme parasociality
- dangerous for self-esteem + well-being
- since interactions are limited or not real
Sternberg’s Theory of Love components
- intimacy
- commitment
- passion