Adulthood Flashcards
non-directed masturbation (asexual)
- masturbation without sexual fantasies)
- More like a tension release, not sexual in nature`
advantage of masturbation
Releases endorphins, reduces stress, helps you sleep, no risks of STIs or pregnancy, etc.
how many people have intercourse by 24
85% - most in romantic relationships
In contrast to previous generations where intercourse was done almost exclusively in marriage
how often is hooking up = sex
34%
issues with hookups
- Some people think/hope it will lead to romantic relationship (unmet expectations)
- 65% Women, 45% Men
- Let down by expectations
- 78% coerced sex happens during hookups
- Orgasm gap large esp. during hookups
- Often occur with alcohol use
- 30% said they wouldn’t have done it if alcohol had not been a factor
Tasks of Adulthood
- Continued exploration of sexual identity
- Identify sexual likes and dislikes
- Develop effective communication
- Not many people have good role models
- Challenging task!
- Being more responsible about sex
- Contraception, regular testing, have safer sex than adolescence
- Intimacy
- Deeper connections, longer-term relationships
serial monogamy
two or more long-term relationships before marriage
Living apart together (LAT)
living in different residence than partner
why LAT
- “too early”
- 1/3 prefers to live alone (prioritize kids)
- felt constrained by lack of income, work, living arrangements.
Long-Distance Relationships
- No differences in relationship or sexual satisfaction
- No differences in rates of infidelity
- Incl. extradyadic sexual activity
what predicts success in LTR
trust, faith, expect more support, optimistic of future, behaviour maintaining relationship, positive or idealized notion of their partner
WHY do ppl in LDR Report similar satisfaction and stability, as well as sexual satisfaction as individuals in close geographic relationships
ppl in LDR engage in more nonsexual and sexual behaviours aimed at maintaining their relationship than close ppl
3 types of celibates:
- virgins
- singles
- partnered (in sexless relationships)
Singleism
stigmatizing and stereotyping of people who are not in a romantic relationship
Committed relationship ideology
- View that people with a partner are better than those without a partner
- Idea that committed relationships = most important relationship type compared to others (friendships, etc.)
The “Wedding Ring Effect”
When someone is taken = they seem more attractive
- Particularly women who believed men in photos in relationships rated as more attractive than if single EXCEPT with kids
Fear of being single is a predictor of:
- Settling for less in existing relationships
- This fear also predicts romantic interest in lower quality partners
- Less likely to initiate relationship breakup
why do heterosexual men live longer married to women
women = caretakes (no effect for woemn)
% of ppl cohabitate
42%
how many cohabitating marreid within 2 years
66%
common law DIFFERENCES FROM MARRIED COUPLES:
Division of property (family home)
- Typically end after 4 years (14 for marriage)
60% of people who end them do so before 30
44% have kids
Most common among 20-24yrs
% common law in US
6
Women more likely than men to marry WHY
- provides legal protection
- further cements relationship
- political fight for quality and public acknowledgement of same-sex couples
- being able to use the language of marriage
Interpersonal exchange model of sexual satisfaction–More sexual satisfaction if:
- Sexual rewards > sexual cost
- emotional closeness, physical intimacy, fun
- not having much pleasure, feeling pressured, anxiety, issues in sexual communication
- Sexual rewards > sexual costs expected
- Equal reward cost ratios
- If you think partner is getting more rewards than you = bad
- Satisfaction with nonsexual relationship
- General satisfaction with relationship
these 4 components predict satisfaction 3 months later