8: Building and Maintaining Relationships

Question 1

love style that involves altruism, giving, and other-centered love

Answer 1

agape

Question 2

fourth stage of separation model - couple would rather stay away from each other than communicate

Answer 2

avoiding

Question 3

fifth stage of relationship model - revealing your relationship to the world, engagement, marriage

Answer 3

bonding

Question 4

second stage of separation model - where the partners tend to limit their interactions with each other

Answer 4

circumscribing

Question 5

the minimum standard of a behavior that a person is willing to tolerate

Answer 5

comparison level (CL)

Question 6

the comparison between current relationship rewards and what one might get in another relationship

Answer 6

comparison level of alternatives (CLalt)

Question 7

relationships in which each person in the relationship can help satisfy the other person’s needs

Answer 7

complementary

Question 8

how often you communicate with another person

Answer 8

contact frequency

Question 9

first stage of separation model - both people are trying to figure out their own identities, disagreeing more

Answer 9

differentiating

Question 10

the length of any relationship

Answer 10

duration

Question 11

love style that emphasizes love and physical beauty, immediate attraction, emotional intensity, and strong commitment

Answer 11

eros

Question 12

second stage in relationship model - trying to figure out if you want to continue the relationship further

Answer 12

experimenting

Question 13

expectations about a relationship

Answer 13

goals

Question 14

first stage in relationship model - indicating your interest to the other person

Answer 14

initiating

Question 15

fourth stage of relationship model - when two people truly become an exclusive couple

Answer 15

integrating

Question 16

third stage of relationship model - sharing more intimate and/or personal information about ourselves with other person, interactions become more meaningful

Answer 16

intensifying

Question 17

the different types of conversations you can have with another person

Answer 17

interaction variability

Question 18

love style that views love as a game, and playing this game with multiple partners is perceived to be acceptable by individuals with this love style

Answer 18

ludic

Question 19

love style characterized by dependence, uncertainty, jealousy, and emotional upheaval

Answer 19

mania

Question 20

the degree to which you find another person aesthetically pleasing

Answer 20

physical attraction

Question 21

love style regarding practical love involving logic and reason, for a purpose

Answer 21

pragma

Question 22

the stabilization point between relationship initiation and potential relationship destruction

Answer 22

relationship maintenance

Question 23

disclosing private and intimate details of our thoughts and feelings to another person

Answer 23

sharing

Question 24

the degree to which an individual sees another person as entertaining, intriguing, and fun to be around

Answer 24

social attraction

Question 25

third stage of separation model - the relationship is not improving or growing, separated emotionally

Answer 25

stagnating

Question 26

style of love that develops slowly out of friendship where stability and psychological closeness are valued along with commitment, which leads to enduring love

Answer 26

storge

Question 27

attraction to an individual because they possess specific knowledge and/or skills that help us accomplish specific goals

Answer 27

task attraction

Question 28

fifth stage of separation model - when both partners decide to end the relationship

Answer 28

terminating

Question 29

theory that we will form relationships with people who can offer us rewards that outweigh the costs

Answer 29

exchange theory

Question 30

concept that we are attracted to and tend to form relationships with others who are similar to us

Answer 30

similarity thesis

Question 31

how individuals deal with opposing forces and struggles within their relationship

Answer 31

dialectical tension