7: Talking and Listening Flashcards
6 main reasons why people communicate with each other, according to Rebecca Rubin - control, relaxation, escape, inclusion, affection, and pleasure
communication motives
inherent reasons for communicating - physical health, building identity, social relationships, practical reasons
communication needs
a joint activity in which two or more participants use linguistic forms and nonverbal signals to communicate interactively
conversation
passive physiological activity where an individual perceives sound by detecting vibrations through an ear
hearing
concept that we build trust in our interpersonal relationships as we self-disclose revealing information about ourselves, and we learn more about ourselves as we receive feedback from the people with whom we are interacting - represented by four panes
Johari Window
active process of focused, concentrated attention for the purpose of hearing and understanding the meanings expressed by an individual
listening
process of purposefully communicating information about one’s self - permitting one’s “true self” to be known to others
self-disclosure
theory that relationships begin when individuals share non-intimate layers and move to more intimate layers of personal information - orientation stage, exploratory affective stage, affective stage, and stable stage
social penetration theory
conversation where an individual is talking at the other person and not with the other person - other person is passive receiver
one-way conversation
conversation marked by a mutual interest in what all parties within the conversation have to contribute
cooperative conversation
conversation in which individuals are more concerned with their points of view than others within the conversation
competitive conversation
one-way cooperative conversation - sender transmitting information to the receiver
discourse
two-way cooperative conversation - participants exchange information and build relationships with each other
dialogue
two-way competitive conversation - less about information giving and more about persuading, ultimate goal is to change the other person’s perspective
debate
one-way competitive conversation - to express emotions, browbeat those that disagree with you, and/or inspire those that share the same perspective
diatribe
examining what happens when an individual within an interpersonal interaction violates the norms for that interaction
expectancy violation theory (EVT)
the attempt to generate as favorable an impression of ourselves as possible, particularly through both verbal and nonverbal techniques of self-presentation
impression management
form of impression management involving talking about our own characteristics and accomplishments
self-descriptions
form of impression management involving explanations to downplay negative assumptions about ourselves, excuse/justify incidents, or minimize severity of a predicament
accounts
form of impression management involving admitting you have done something wrong while trying to convince the other person that the undesirable event is not a fair representation of what you’re “really like”, downplaying severity of outcome
apologies
form of impression management designed to explain a desirable event in a way that maximizes the desirable implications for the actor, exaggerate the positive implications of your actions
entitlements and enhancements
form of impression management involving use of compliments to get the other individual to view you positively
flattery
form of impression management involving doing something kind or desirable for someone to gain that person’s approval
favors
first quadrant of Johari Window - information known to both ourselves and others
open self