4 - Attraction, Self-Disclosure and Privacy Flashcards

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Define: Attraction

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  • A force that draws people together
  • Physical
  • Social: Friends and family
  • Task (instrumental goal)
  • Sexual
  • Fatal: once admirable qualities turn negative and we are no longer attracted
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Define: Personal qualities

Name and year

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What WE bring to the relationship

Kelley et al. 1983

  1. Reward value: our perception of the rewards we will get from a relationship; eg. fun, security, financial gain
  2. Expectations: determine what we notice and become a reality
  3. Biological: hormones and pheromones (sexual attraction)
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Define: Personal qualities

Personality

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Style of attachment:

  • Secure
  • Dismissive
  • Fearful-avoidant
  • Preoccupied

Influenced by childhood

Beliefs about relationship:
- Destiny and growth (first impressions and project)

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Define: Personal qualities

Personality: Narcissism

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  • Exaggerated sense of self importance and focus on self at expense of others
  • May have low self-esteem that’s why they leach on others
  • Attracted to those that admire them
  • Attracted to short-term attraction
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Define: Qualities of the other

Name and year

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Kelley et al. 1983

  • Physical attractiveness
  • More attractive = more sociable and successful
    (HALO EFFECT)
  • Assimilation effect: rated more attractive when seen with attractive people
  • Interpersonal communication:
  • Warmth
  • Sociability and competence
  • Loss-gain: being mean the whole time is less of a loss if they suddenly turn mean
  • Playing hard to get
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Define: Characteristics of the pair

Name and year

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Kelley et al 1983

  • Similarity of attitudes: Birds of a feather flock together
  • Complementarity: Opposites attract
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Define: Self-disclosure

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Revealing something about yourself, whether or not it is appropriate depends on how well you know someone

Eg. Scale of personal (body image), to romantic relationships (plans and emotion) to intimate (phobias, depression)

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Define: Self-disclosure

Dimensions according to Social Penetration Theory

Depth and breadth

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  • Superficial (outside and public)
  • Social and personal (friends and family)
  • Intimate (seldom revealed)
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Define: Self-disclosure

Dimensions according to Social Penetration Theory

Frequency and duration

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  • Limited term projects (low breadth and depth; high freq)
  • “Stranger on plane” high depth and breadth but infrequent
  • Online communication high disclosure (more likely to declare romantic intentions; rejection easier to accept)
  • Can be frequent but short (co-workers) ; can be infrequent and long (long distance friends)
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Define: Self-disclosure

Dimensions according to Social Penetration Theory

Valance and verocity

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Valence: positive or negative aspects of information disclosed (works well with depth)

Eg. American’s disclose more negatives

Veracity: How honest or self-deceptive the content is

Eg. Tinder profile is high in valence and low in veracity

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Define: Self-disclosure

Strategies

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  • Build into everyday conversation
  • “Floating” = touching upon intimate topics to gauge response before full disclosure
  • Inducing self-disclosure in another = encouraging reciprocation
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Define: Self-disclosure

Risks

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  • Rejection
  • Fear of retaliation or anger
  • Fear of loss of control
  • Fear of losing individuality
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Define: Communication Privacy Management Theory

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  1. Public private dialectal tension
  2. Owning private information
  3. Flexible rules and boundaries
  4. Shared boundaries when info is shared
  5. Boundary co-operation and co-ordination
  6. Boundary turbulence: changing and solidifying
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Define: Topic avoidance and secrets

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  • Avoiding or keeping topics a secret

- Whole family, Intrafamily (within the family) and individual secrets

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Define: Topic avoidance and secrets

Motivations

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  • Protecting relationships from destruction
  • Identity management and privacy maintenance
  • Unresponsive partners, unuseful discussions and inefficient communication
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Define: Topic avoidance and secrets

Consequences (bad)

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  • Less relational satisfaction
  • Harmful when related to relationship
  • Being closed reflects bad relationship
  • Lower quality interactions
  • Deception
  • Depression, stress and aggression
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Define: Topic avoidance and secrets

Consequences (good)

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  • Allow adolescents to form identity
  • Cohesion and trust between secret holders
  • Protection and defence
  • Stress relief (don’t have to address difficult topics)
  • Preserve privacy