You are surprisingly hard to understand

Question 1

Do studies show that it easy to control how others receive your message?

Answer 1

In general no. There’s not a strong correlation between how we see ourselves and how others see us.

Question 2

What two assumptions does this book see as incorrect

Answer 2

That others see you objectively

That others see you ass you see yourself

Question 3

Why is hard to for others to see you objectively?

Answer 3

You don’t do as much to really communicate.

It’s not possible to know what someone is really thinking

Question 4

What’s the challenge interpreting emotions

Answer 4

While the bg ones are easy to read, the subtle ones are not

Question 5

What is the transparency illusion?

Answer 5

That things are seen clearly and understood cklearly

Question 6

How can you be more judicable?

Answer 6

Make information apparent
Make sure information is relevant
The perceiver must pay attention to that information
The perceiver must use that info correctly

Question 7

If we act and speak clearly, does that we garnet we will be understood?

Answer 7

No, but it will help. What you say and do, is open to meaning and interpretation by the perceiver

Question 8

What were the key takeaways of the chapter?

Answer 8

We don’t communicate nearly as much information as we think
we fall prey to two assumptions 1) that other people see us objectively as we are and 2) that other people see us as we see ourselves
-Two reasons we are hard to understand 1) none is truly an open book. 2) our actions are always open to interpretation