Why Sexual Identities, Behaviours Or Attractions Don’t Always “match” Flashcards
Sexuality includes a number of aspects that may be “______” but are “____” determining of one another
Linked
Not
Ex.
Gender identity
Gender expression
Sex assigned at birth
Sexual attraction
Romantic attraction
What is discordance?
When sexual identities, behaviours, and attractions DO NOT “match”
“Mismatches” exist in different spaces
NOT hiding identity or confusion
Genders impacts discordance
What are the challenges with surveys for measuring sexuality and discordance?
fixed response categories
fluid identities
non-consensual sex
Why do MSM identify as “straight”?
Sex and romantic relationships are different
“I have sex w/ men BUT I have a girlfriend that I look forward to seeing and I love”
BOTH ARE IMPORTANT TO THEM
= weigh romantic relationships as more important
Just a sexual experience
= doesn’t define identity
Bonding (ex. Like guys coming together for a sports team)
Being gay or bisexual doesnt fit (ex. May have stereotypical ideas of what it “looks like” to be gay)
Coercion
not prejudice alone (ex. They were NOT just hiding who they were)
= finding identity
What are the two main reasons they don’t want to identify as bisexual?
- Partnered to a women
- Want to stay partnered to a women
Why do some men who identify as straight have sex with other men?
They want more sex than they’re getting in marriage
= men have a higher sex drive than women
= men are LESS LIKELY to spread gossip about it compared to women
less likely to get caught
Stereotypes older men
= older women “lose interest”
= maybe think older men will have more of a sex drive (stereotypical view)
Pleasure/submission
“I have a type of pleasure w/ men that i cant have with a women”
What do rural and small-town men prioritize?
Sex with men was mostly irrevelant to rural men’s identities
Their identity FOCUSED on romantic relationships, parenthood,
community, & masculinity
= idea of masculinity is pretty stereotypical
Connected to straight communities
= want to feel like they “fit in” to their community
Note - Some LGBQ [Sic] people but they are typically less visible than in cities
= social dynamics or pressures?
What are the distinct views that rural and small-town men have?
No consequence for masculine identity
Occasional vice (ex. If I smoke a drunk cig = doesn’t mean I am a smoker)
Most physically attracted to women
Romantically interested in women
Sexuality is “___________”
Multidimensional
Sexual identities “_______” over time
Though heterosexuality is the identity that is “______” likely to
change
Change
Least
Women are more “_______” than men to engage in “_____-_____” behaviour
Although these rates for women ARE “____________”, rates for men are NOT
Likely; same-sex
Increasing
= due to gender inequality
= seems that heterosexuality is CENTRAL to a mans masculinity
