Polyamoury, Mononormativity And Polyqueer Kinship Flashcards
“__________” is the fastest growing family type in Canada
Polyamory
POLYGAMY = “_____ ___” equal = POLYAMOROUS
does not
“________” is NOT legal in Canada
Polygamy
NOTE: once again, this is different from polyamory
What are the two types of polygamy?
- Polygyny:
- marriage b/w men and mult women - Polyandry:
- marriage b/w women and mult men
NOTE: once again, this is NOT legal in Canada
There’s many different types of polyamorous relationships….
What are some of these?
Vee type (un closed triangle)
Triangle/triad
Z or N type
Sandclock (hourglass shape)
Quad (square)
Web type (is a w and w/ two pieces of end)
Polyamorous relationships subculture is different from the mainstream:
This impacts our gendered “______ & __________” of intimate relationships
Give some examples…
Self & organization
Ex) women have sister relationships (‘sister wives’)
Ex) men question their own jealously/possessiveness
Ex) some have “alpha male syndrome”
- find that having multiple women ”enchances” their feeling of masculinity
There is new and innovative “_____” for how we experience and do intimate relationships
Give some examples….
Norms
Ex) WANT gender egalitarianism and to REJECT the double standard (that men can have mult women but not the same vise versa)
Ex) REJECT idea that jealously is legitimate, inevitable, and can be avoided through monogamy
Polygamy as = antidote
Ex) metamour
What are some social/political implications of polyamorous relationships?
- Polynormativity:
- picks up gender norms
- idea that being polyamorous is the ‘normal’ - Polyqueer:
- focus on consensual relationships
- equality seen & balanced w/ power - Mononormativity:
- being monogamous is the ‘normal’ & mature
-not settling down w/ one person = selfish
- Long term monogamy = happy ever after
- “soul mate” or “the one”
- children between off w/ two person family
What maintains mononormativity?
- The legal definition of marriage
-
News/media portrayals
- ex) polyamorous leader in B.C
- victimization and relationship type
- idea of a good life/responsible
Polyamory is a “_________” trend in Canada
Growing
Not “____” polyamorous relationships are “______” equitable
All; more
Polyqueer relationships teach everyone about jealousy, equity and communication
These lessons are “_________” for “___” relationship types
Important; all
In one study of gender and polyamory it was found that the women in the samples reported a stronger sense of sexual “________” and “_________”
Also that one of the best things about a polyamorous relationship is the “_________” you make with other women
Agency; autonomy
Relationships
Ex. ‘Sister wives’
In one study of gender and polyamory it was found that the men in the samples fell into 2 categories about opinions of polyamory
What are these?
- Most men had to question their jealously and possessiveness and ’reframe” their sense of masculinity
- Other men exhibited “alpha male syndrome” and reported feeling even more masculine with having multiple women partners
What is the concept of “compersion”?
Polyamorists have developed this concept to describe happy feelings when a lover/partner is experiencing pleasure & intimacy w/ another person
Jealousy, polyamorists suggest, stems from fear of “_____” and feeling “_______”
Loss; insecure
What is the label “metamour”?
This is a “partner’s partner”
The sociological significance of the label metamour is that it has become a role in polyamorous relationships
= as a role, it comes with norms & expectations about how to relate to each other
= by forming a relationship w/ the other partner’s partner this opens lines of communication
= articulates needs, desires and expectations
Polyamory is not inherently more egalitarian or progressive than monogamy…
Despite the subcultural norm for gender equality, polyamory can be as masculine dominant or racist as any other kind of relationship depending on how it is done in practice…
^ This is why its important to distinguish b/w “_________ & _________” relationships
What is the difference?
Polynormative & Polyqueer
Polynormativity:
= ways of doing polyamory that reproduces social inequality
Polyqueer:
= include more than two adults and challenge or diminish social hierarchies based on gender and race
It’s important to note…
“_______ , ________- classed” and highly educated polyamorists have been most of the participants in published research on polyamory and most authors of how- to books
White, middle-classed
Historically, to legitimate the US takeover and annexation of the Utah state, a “____________” campaign was initiated to portray Mormons as primitive, exceptionally patriarchal, uncivilized, and non- white because they practiced “________”
Why is this?
Propaganda
Polygamy
Contemporary journalists’ portrayals of FLDS polygamy claim the women and children are victimized by the practice of polygamy
When journalists write about abuse and exploitation in monogamous families, they rarely if ever blame monogamy despite high rates of violence in monogamous marriages
Polygamists in the United States are forced to go underground and isolate their families to avoid prosecution. These anti-polygamy “_____” have what consequences?
Abusers can abuse and exploit without fear of
repercussions because other family members are not willing to go to authorities outside their communities or seek resources because of their legitimate fear of legal repercussions
for practicing polygamy
“_________” discourses often claimed that a particular kind of
gendered monogamy is “_______” evolved and civilized than polygamy
Colonial; more
Research has also found that children in polyamorous households fair as well or sometimes “______” than children
in two- parent household
Why is this?
In multi- adult households, physical and economic responsibilities do not fall on the shoulders of one or two people
= it is spread among the adults which means that children have access to more emotional, physical, and economic care
What is “polyqueer kinship”?
Refers to networks of belonging that are based on mutual interdependence, care, and responsibility instead of monogamous marriage, genetic ancestry, and biological children
Based on building affective ties, care networks, and resource- sharing responsibilities with more than two adults and their children
It is also permeable and can grow horizontally and stretch to accommodate more adults and children
