week 11 - relationships and human sexuality Flashcards
Key to developing healthy relationships
verbal communication
- know, tell - talking + listening (spend time + energy to understand one)
- feedback (constructive response + acknowledging others feelings as valid)
- dont get mad at partner
for being unhappy about
relationship - be
understanding
nonverbal
- makes up 67% of comm
- touch, eye contact, facial expression
- comes from own sense of self esteem
self disclosure
- sharing personal info u wouldn’t normally share
3 keys to effective communication
self disclosure
listening
feedback (respond to other ppls self disclosure)
Roger’s 3 conditions to characterize healthy relationships
- Genuineness
○ Honest + accurate comm - Empathy
○ Understanding someone else’s position and intellectual perspective - Unconditional positive regard
○ Ability to experience another person’s w/out judgement and neg feelings
Those raised in enviro of uncoditional positive regard have opportunity to realize their full potential
digital communication
allows to connect to other via phone or social media
very popular in covid times
can be pos or neg
- ability to post rude stuff about self or others
- impulsive comm
- hard to read social ques through text
- promote idealization of self
- going on phone instead of being present
active social media use
post and use it alot
passive social media use
use it but dont post + engage super often
How to be an effective speaker
- “I” statements about how u feel - taking responsibility to own feelings
- Focus on specific behaviour
- Constructive requests - keep focus on ur needs
- Avoid blaming, accusing, and belittling
Tell ur partner what u want
How to be an effective listener
-eye contact + nod
- Don’t interrupt
- Reflective listening (don’t jump in right away)
- No unsolicited advice
-Let them know u value what they are saying
self perception
way an individual views and understands themselves
can influence interactions w/ others; lack of self-esteem can impact relationships
principle element in a relationship
is ourselves
friendship
1st relationship outside of fam
gives feelings of warmth, trust, respect, loyalty, empathy, honesty, acceptance
dating
spending time together, practicing comm skills, seeings if rom feelings develop; testing compatibility
romantic attraction
being attracted to warmth, kindness, looks, finances
large realm of romantic attraction
initmacy
sexual, open trust, sharing of close thoughts and feelings
can also be platonic
stenberg’s love triangle
commitment (Decision to remain together)
intimacy (Attachment, closeness)
passion (Drives + sexual attraction)
passion + commitmentn
fatuous love
intimacy + passion
romantic love
commitment + intimacy
companion love
consonant love
requires passion + commitment + intimacy
mature love
what lasting relationships are made of - deep, enduring love
a relationship shows promise if…
- feel at ease w/ partner
- feel good about them when around or not
- open
- can say no w/out feeling guilty
crucial ingredients for commitment
- love, sex, intimacy
- mutual trust; caring; respect
- willingess to tolerate flaws
- effective comm
- sharing of duties + responsibilities
- not having unrealistic expectations
- becoming more like each other (shared morals + values + interests + activities)
committed relationships
- partnerships, cohabitation or marriage
today, fewer couples are getting married but…
more choosing to live together