Solve For Happy Flashcards

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What is the Hapiness according to Mo?

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Everyone seeks happiness as much as they seek air to breathe

It’s that feeling where everything seems right and you wouldn’t mind if time stood still

We search for happiness when we realize it has always been inside us, a design feature
Success is not an essential prerequisite to happiness

The easiest way to spend 10,000 hours doing something to become great at it?
Doing something that makes you happy
Whatever it is we do in our lives should directly solve for happy

Document your own list of things that make you happy
“I feel happy when….” (complete the sentence)
Writing this list actually makes you happy, and he does this weekly to reinforce an attitude of gratitude

Happiness happens when life seems to be going your way. You feel happy when life behaves the way you want it to. The opposite is true. Unhappiness is when your reality does not match your hopes and expectations

Happiness => your perception of the events of your life – your expectations of how life should behave

It’s not the event that makes us unhappy, it’s the way we think about it that does

When we choose to let our painful thoughts and suffering to linger and ruminate in our kind, the more we make ourselves needlessly suffer

Happiness starts with a conscious choice

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Who is Mo Gawdat?

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Mo Gawdat is a remarkable thinker and the Chief Business Officer at Google’s [X], an elite team of engineers that comprise Google’s futuristic “dream factory.” Applying his superior skills of logic and problem solving to the issue of happiness, he proposes an algorithm based on an understanding of how the brain takes in and processes joy and sadness. Then he solves for happy.

In 2001 Mo Gawdat realized that despite his incredible success, he was desperately unhappy. A lifelong learner, he attacked the problem as an engineer would: examining all the provable facts and scrupulously applying logic. Eventually, his countless hours of research and science proved successful, and he discovered the equation for permanent happiness.

Thirteen years later, Mo’s algorithm would be put to the ultimate test. After the sudden death of his son, Ali, Mo and his family turned to his equation—and it saved them from despair. In dealing with the horrible loss, Mo found his mission: he would pull off the type of “moonshot” goal that he and his colleagues were always aiming for—he would share his equation with the world and help as many people as possible become happier.

In Solve for Happy Mo questions some of the most fundamental aspects of our existence, shares the underlying reasons for suffering, and plots out a step-by-step process for achieving lifelong happiness and enduring contentment. He shows us how to view life through a clear lens, teaching us how to dispel the illusions that cloud our thinking; overcome the brain’s blind spots; and embrace five ultimate truths.” -Audible

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Chapter 2: 6-7-5

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Fun is a painkiller because it mimics happiness by switching off the excessive thinking that overwhelms our brains for a while
With no thoughts, we rerun to our default, childlike state: happiness

Fun, gratifying things we seek to give us that painkiller leads to us always striving for more extreme painkillers

Set a daily quota of fun, positive activities as a happiness supplement
Joy is when thoughts are no longer even needed because the analysis has ended and the equation has permanently been solved

“The gravity of the battle means nothing to those at peace”

tattoo on his son’s back

True joy is to be in harmony with life exactly how it is
Joy is attaining uninterrupted happiness
Eliminate 6 illusions, fix the 7 blind spots, and hang on to 5 ultimate truths

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Chapter 3: that little voice in your head

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  • The Illusion of Thought: you are not your thoughts
    • Those thoughts are there to serve you, and up to you to act upon
    • You are the boss who tells you what to do, not your thoughts
  • Three types of thought that our brain produces:
    • Insightful – used in problem-solving
    • Experiential – focused on the task at hand
    • Narrative – chatter
  • Observe the dialogue of your thoughts
  • Your brain can be primed just by bringing a thought into your consciousness
  • The easiest way to become happy is just to be happy
    • Remove the unhappy thought, replace it with a happy one, and let the rest take care of itself
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Chapter 4: Who are you?

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Reader’s note: To sum up the section, he’s basically saying that our ego and identity is tied up to our perceived image to the outside world. And we tend to fight to try and hold onto that identity that we’ve cultivated due to suicidal expectations and pressures
* The happiness equation malfunctions completely because the expectation others will buy into our fake image is never satisfied and we feel unhappy
* Analogy: life is like the coffee that people want, but they focus so much on how good-looking the cup is that they stress themselves out if they don’t have a fancy cup
* If you want to live a stress-free life, ignore the cup and just enjoy the coffee
* Like a Russian doll, you need to remove the layers one by one, trying to distinguish the real you from the roles you’ve assumed over the years until you find your pure self
* As much as you might think so, you are not the star of the movie
* Most of what happens around you isn’t about you at all
* Events are neither good nor bad in the context of the larger perspective
* There are infinite numbers of other movies, you were just a supporting actor
* It will really help your happiness if you start to look at life this way

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CHAPTER 5: WHAT YOU KNOW

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“Real knowledge it’s to know the extent of one’s ignorance”
Confucius
* Be an explorer, a seeker of the truth, always ready to admit being wrong in order to continue the quest

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CHAPTER 6: DOES ANYBODY KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS?

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  • Time is relative per the Theory of Relativity
    • Einstein says time and space are connected in a 4-dimensional structure called Space-Time
    • The pull of gravity actually slows time down, so passing by a black hole will slowdown time significantly
  • Time is experienced differently by different people and different cultures
  • Time plays a big role in perpetuating and creating unhappiness
    • Happy emotions are mostly anchored in the present moment
    • Every unhappy or stressful thought exists outside of the here and now, while every observation of the here and now eases you into a peaceful place
      • When you remove the timestamps from your thoughts, there will be nothing unhappy left to think about
    • If you want to be happy, live in the here and now
      • Whatever you’re upset about is rooted in a past you cannot change or a future that may turn out to be completely different from what you expect
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CHAPTER 7: HOUSTON, WE HAVE A PROBLEM

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  • With so many things out of our control the two things in our control are our actions and our attitude
  • Movie reference: Life Is Beautiful
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CHAPTER 8: MIGHT AS WELL JUMP

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  • Everyone is afraid of something
    • Fear is the granddaddy of all illusions
  • Pain is just a thought, and your brain can ignore it
    • You can learn to suppress it or enjoy it like muscle soreness from working out
  • The first step is to acknowledge our fears and face them
  • What keeps us alive and propels us forward is not our fears but our actions
  • Taking action will reduce your fears
    • Ask: what is the best that can happen?
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CHAPTER 9: IS IT TRUE?

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  • Worrying is the brain’s default position
    • The evidence shows that most of us tend to be negative most of the time
  • What we perceive is mostly filtered, allowing us only a tiny sliver of the truth
  • Blindspots:
    • Filters
    • Assumptions
    • Predictions
    • Memories
    • Labels
    • Emotions
    • Exaggeration
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CHAPTER 10: RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW

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  • Schedule in “me-time” for yourself
  • When you’re feeling busy and overwhelmed, just stop
    • Practice awareness and noticing things around you in your life
  • Timeless time: give yourself the luxury of a timeless experience at least once a week
    • Take yourself to a quiet spot where you have no access to anything with the time
    • While doing an activity, put your full attention and awareness into that activity
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CHAPTER 11: THE PENDULUM SWING

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  • Try reframing ambition so that the focus is on the goal of becoming a better person regardless of how you compare to others
    • Even better, look down instead of up and be grateful at how lucky you are
  • Gratitude is a sure path to happiness
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CHAPTER 12: LOVE IS ALL YOU NEED

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  • Love, true love, is real. All other emotions are temporary
    • They appear when a reason triggers them and disappears when that reason goes away
    • Relationships suffer because they are built on conditional love in an ever-changing world
  • There’s no happiness without love. True love delivers lasting joy
    • There’s no taking in true love
      • With nothing to take, there’s nothing to expect and none of the suffering that results from the missed expectations from conditional love
  • The true joy in true love is in giving it
    • The more love you give, the more you get back
      Reader’s note: For a book that is seemingly very logical and its approach to finding and identifying happiness, it also has a refreshing the spiritual side to it. Now that it’s on the topic of love and energy in the universe giving back what you give
  • The Law of Conservation or Multiplication of Love: Love never goes to waste
    • The more you give it away, the more loved you will feel
  • Even the most annoying, seemingly hateful people you meet, when you see behind the egos, fears and thought-obsessed behaviors, you will find peaceful children who just want to be loved and appreciated
    • Once loved, most of them drop the masks and turn real
    • Gently remove the mask of ego and love what you see underneath
  • Love yourself. How can you love anything or expect anything to love you if you don’t love yourself?
    • Nothing causes more unhappiness in the world today then the widespread deprivation of self-love
  • Jott down everything about you that’s positive or admirable
    • Force yourself to write at least one thing per day that you’re proud of
    • Write down every compliment you receive, who said it, and when
    • Go back and revisit whenever you feel you’re not good enough
  • Be kind. Giving to those you love often feels even better and keeping for yourself
  • The ultimate form of giving is forgiving
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CHAPTER 13: L. I. P.

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  • The physical world, the world around us, is observer-dependent
    • Life must have existed before the big bang in order to observe it into existence
  • The physical self is an illusion. Life is not the body that is subject to the limitations of space-time
    • The real you is the observer, not the physical form that represents you. That is what life really is
      Reader’s note: Holy crap this chapter goes deep. It is very scientific, philosophical, and spiritual at the same time
  • Death scares us because we are comfortable with the familiarity of this life
  • Our mortality ironically is a life coach
    1. Before you die, you might as well live a happy life
    2. Let’s learn to find happiness despite death, or even because of death
  • Like every other truth, accepting that will set you free
    1. But first, it will really piss you off
  • Three lessons that teach us how to live a worthy life:
    1. Death is inevitable so accept it
    2. Life is now. Birth and death are like the covers of a book, but what really matters are the stories that fill the pages in between
      • How would you live if you knew today was your last day?
      • More importantly, why are you not living that way today when you know that it may well be your last?
        • Every day, a version of you and everyone else dies and never returns. Don’t let any of them pass unappreciated
    3. Life is a rental. Everything we have will be left behind so why do we focus so much on our possessions?
      • Nothing is really yours, then nothing can be lost
        • Find freedom in that
      • Letting go and allowing things to leave from your life allows for space and new things to come in
  • LIP = Live In Peace
  • Life is like a game in which the difficulty makes it fun, whereas easy would make it boring
    1. Life is similar to a game in that we enter this level through a portal called birth and then leave it through death where we enter the next level
      • Could this life be one level in a larger game?
      • Most religious and spiritual teachings seem to believe this to be true, in that death is just a portal to another life, and we never really die just our physical form
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CHAPTER 14: WHO MADE WHO?

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  • There is no scientific way to prove something does not exist, such as a designer of the universe.
    • You cannot prove a negative
  • Since neither side of the Grand Design debate cannot conclusively prove they’re right, it’s all a matter of probability
    • It is a question of which side is more likely to be true
  • Doing the math, it takes way more time and possibilities to create the universe than its age, almost impossible without intervention
    • Factoring in entropy in which things have a tendency towards chaos, and it decreases the odds
  • Similar to how it’s possible an Audi could appear randomly with enough chances, but it’s not probable
    • We cannot think the car would be produced by evolution alone. If the universe had infinite time to try, then maybe. But that is a myth
  • Age of universe since Big Bang is about 13.7 billion years. Earth = 4.5 billion. Primitive Life = 3.7 billion years ago
    • It’s very short for a task like creation
  • Ultimately the math is clear, nothing is random. We’re all a part of a grand design
  • The designer doesn’t run the show, his equations do
    • But you don’t have to worry about the all the equations
    • Focus on your happiness equation as it’s the only one you can fully control
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