Social Health Flashcards
What is peer pressure?
direct or indirect influence of others towards you with the intention of a specific outcome
Notes on Peer pressure
- probably happens more than you think
- 80 to 90% of high school students experience peer pressure
- is usually (but not always) negative
How do you deal with negative peer pressure?
- plan ahead: rehearse responses to situations don’t find yourself in bad situations
- surround yourself with people who are not peer pressuring you
- continually remind yourself who is most important to please
DECIDE (decision-making model)
D: determine the problem/decision to be made
E: examine the options
C: consider the consequences (Pros and Cons)
I: Identify your values/how they may be affected by the decision
D: decide and act
E: evaluate the decision
Examples of peer pressure
gossip, lying, cheating on tests and homework, sexual activity, etc…
Notes on Extroverts
- people who seem to know everyone they meet
- outgoing and/or expressive
- enjoy/are usually fine with talking to people
- more likely to take risks
- prefer being with people/working with the team than to be alone
Notes on Introverts
- people who direct their attention to more private matters
- more reserved personality
- typically quieter and/or are shy
- don’t enjoy the process of meeting new people and/or social events
- less likely to take risks, methodical thinkers
- prefer to work alone
- prefers to be alone or with family
What is an Ambivert?
- a person balanced with both extrovert and introvert qualities
- can depend on mental state, setting, etc…
Which is best to be?
well… there isn’t a “best” to be, there are pros and cons to both
The introvert extrovert and ambivert are all made by God in his…
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All personality types will have areas of strength and… ?, but no one should be ashamed of the personality God gave them
Weakness
What does it mean to be “socially healthy”?
the ability to get along with others
How can we do this biblically?
- having a kind, forgiving heart
- care for/build others up
- be peaceful… as long as you can
- good listener, patient with others
- treat others how you want to be treated
How to listen
“looking is listening”
- God gave you two ears, two eyes, and one mouth
- good listeners don’t just listen with their ears, but with their whole bodies
What is Empathy?
the ability to understand and share feelings of someone else
- Romans 12:12
Notes on Small Talk
- informal, polite conversation, typically with one other person
- a communication skill that is learned
- typically occurs in social situations with downtime/free time
5 Pre-Small Talk Tips
- confidence is key; trick yourself if necessary
- view the conversation as an opportunity, not an obligation
- be ready to be flexible with the conversation
- understand the setting/time allotment you may have for any conversation
- relax
Small Talk - Talk
- informal greeting
example: what’s up? - ask questions and follow the questions
example: about them, their day, etc… - have a balanced conversation (be willing to pipe up and down)
- avoid one word responses; try to elaborate
-show you’re interested - recognize/use cues
Recognizing/Using cues
- as naturally as possible, look at the person you’re engaging with
- mirror the talking person
example: laugh, smile, etc… - if they are fidgeting, looking away, etc… that may be an indicator to end the conversation
Ending Small Talk
- if the conversation ends, feel free to give a brief explanation and/or a casual farewell greeting
- short conversation may not need this
overall: give yourself and others grace and the benefit of the doubt
What is Social Media?
websites or apps for users can create and share content for others to view virtually
What was the 1st social media platform?
6 degrees (1997)
Over… ? … accounts worldwide (8B people on earth)
5,000,000,000
Pros to Social Media
- opportunity to connect with others/keep up with others
- opportunity to influence and be influenced
- opportunity to communicate with others
- opportunity for creativity/expression
Cons to Social Media
- time-wasting: teens average 5 to 9 hours per day
- addiction: underlying goal
- comparison: continuously seeing a betrayal of others that they create/control
- outlets to sin (the three L’s) laziness, lust, and lying
- can hinder face-to-face social skills
- poor mental health factors (young people who actively use social media are 3x more likely to have depression)
Mr. Robbies 2 cents
- Be careful
- Consume in moderation
Why do we have conflict?
ultimately: because we don’t get what we want
- sometimes justified, sometimes unjustified, but conflict (at the core) boils down to people not getting what they want
2 ways to deal with conflict
- Forgive and Forget
- Address the person directly
True or False
Not all conflicts need to be addressed?
True
Dealing with Conflict
important: you creating a conflict and fleeing/ignoring the situation is not a solution
“forgive and forget” applies to when others have wronged you
How do we address the person?
- in love
- separating the person and the problem
- with a humble and honest heart
Conclusion
- in a fallen world with sinful people, conflict is inevitable
- discern if it needs to be addressed or bypassed
- remain calm and Christ like
- if solution 1 doesn’t work move to 2
Quote
“Unresolved conflict harbors bitterness and resentment.”
For every action, there is an…
equal and opposite reaction
