reading- relationships Flashcards
walster 1981 3 factor theory of love
This theory relies on past learning of the concept of love, the presence of someone to love, and arousal
-A cultural determinant that acknowledges love as a state
-The presence of an appropriate love object- in most cultures the norm is a member of the opposite sex and of similar age
-Emotional arousal, self labelled ‘love’, that is felt when interacting with, or even thinking about, an appropriate love object
ways to respond to a relationship that is deteriorating
Zembrot 1983- once deterioration has been identified, it can be responded in 4 ways.
A partner can take a passive stance and show:
Loyalty, by waiting for an improvement to occur
Neglect – allowing the deterioration to continue
A partner can take an active stance and show
Voice behaviour, by working at improving the relationship
Exit behaviour- by choosing to end the relationship
similarity in attraction
Sprecher 1998- people who are evenly matched in their physical appearance, social background and personality, sociability and interests are more likely to be attracted to one another (assertive mating shows this)
Gruber-Baldini 1995- found in married couples there were initial high similairties in age, education, flexibility of attitudes. And as married years went along they became more similar
Liu et al., 1995- found people tend to be more attracted to people of their own ethnic background
Personality- Spreecher 1998- personal characteristics that were similar were more important in predicting attraction- these include having a ‘desirable personality’, warmth and kindness, reciprocal liking. Cortell 2007 added trustworthiness as a vital attribute to attractiveness
effects of parents
reidman et al., 1997- found adults who had experienced their parents breaking up were more likely to be involved in marital breakups themselves
familiarity
Klein and Kunda, 1992- if we anticipate that we will need to interact with the person again, we will like them more
