Other-Directedness - Self-Sacrifice

Question 1

What is the SS schema?

Answer 1

Excessive focus on meeting the needs of others at the expense of their own needs - experienced as voluntary

Question 2

Why do people ss?

Answer 2

To prevent others from feeling pain
To do what they believe is right
To avoid feeling guilty
To maintain connection with needy others

Question 3

How does SS schema arise?

Answer 3

Highly empathic temperament

Over-responsibility for others

Question 4

What almost always goes along with SS?

Answer 4

emotional deprivation
sometimes feel angry at object because give until it hurts
resent

Question 5

What is the parent of an SS like??

Answer 5

Weak, needy, childlike, helpless, ill, depressed

Question 6

Typical behaviours of SS

Answer 6

Listening to others x talking about self
Taking care of others
Focusing on others x attn on self
Being indirect when want something

Question 7

Problem?

Answer 7

Secondary gain

Sense of pride

Question 8

Watch out for

Answer 8

Overcompensating

Flip into anger and cut off giving to other person

Question 9

Goals of treatment?

Answer 9

I have an equal right to get my needs met
Lower over-responsibility-others not as fragile and helpless
Be more vulnerable instead of appearing strong

Question 10

What are possible linked schemas?

Answer 10

Defectiveness-feel worthless
Abandonment-don’t leave me
Dependence-take care of me
Approval-approve of me