Disconnection & Rejection - Emotional Deprivation

Question 1

How does emotional deprivation present?

Answer 1

Don’t expect anyone to nurture, understand or protect
Feel deprived of affection, warmth and attention
Feel no one to give them strength and guidance

Question 2

What are the 3 types?

Answer 2

1. Nurturance - hold, pay attention, affection
2. Empathy - no one listens or tries to understand
3. Protection - no one to protect and guide (often give others protection and guidance)

Question 3

Which schema is emotional deprivation often linked to?

Answer 3

Self sacrifice

Most ss are emotionally deprived

Question 4

What are typical behaviours of emotionally deprived?

Answer 4

Not asking significant others for what they need emotionally
Not expressing a desire for love or comfort
Focusing on asking others ? but not sharing re self
Acting stronger than one feels
Acting as though no emotional needs
Choose depriving partners

Question 5

What does overcompensating for emotional deprivation look like?

Answer 5

Demanding and angry when needs not met
Narcissistic because indulged and deprived and feel entitled to have needs met
Spoiled in some way but not given genuine love

Question 6

What are the goals of treatment?

Answer 6

Become aware of emotional needs
Accept these needs as natural and right
Choose appropriate people and ask for what they need in appropriate ways

Question 7

Is the problem that people are depriving?

Answer 7

No, problem is
A) have chosen people who cannot give
B) have discouraged people who can give from meeting my needs

Question 8

What are treatment strategies?

Answer 8

Challenge b/w thinking - even though people set limits they still care about me
Identify unmet needs in my significant relationships

Question 9

What do I need to do behaviourally?

Answer 9

Choose nurturing people
Ask partners to meet emotional needs in appropriate ways
Accept limits and appreciate nurturance

Question 10

What are special problems with this schema?

Answer 10

Because I never had my emotional needs met, don’t recognize I’m deprived.
So must make connection between loneliness and depression and unmet nurturance, empathy and protection.

Question 11

What are some characteristics of someone who is emotionally deprived?

Answer 11

Negate validity of needs
Believe others should know their needs and they shouldn’t have to ask
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Need to learn it is human to have needs and healthy to ask others to meet them
Human nature to be emotionally vulnerable
Aim for a balance between strength and vulnerability