Meditation

Question 1

Mantra

Answer 1

Listen first, respond later

Question 2

Mantra

Answer 2

Validate, don’t defend

Question 3

Feelings

Answer 3

Feelings are valid

Question 4

Mindfulness

Answer 4

Stay calm, stay present

Question 5

Pause and reflect

Answer 5

I need a moment to process what you’ve said

Question 6

Goals

Answer 6

Listen, validate, avoid defensiveness

Question 7

Reflexive listening

Answer 7

I hear you saying…

Question 8

When she gets upset with defensiveness

Answer 8

I understand you feel frustrated when I get defensive. I’m sorry for that.

Question 9

Use I statements

Answer 9

Focus on your feelings and experiences without making it about her

Question 10

Mantra

Answer 10

Empathy over explanation

Question 11

Don’t solve others problems

Answer 11

Not everything is a nail. Your wife doesn’t need a father telling her how to fix things but a husband that listens

Question 12

Explaining

Answer 12

Don’t over explain, listen, shut up

Question 13

Explaining

Answer 13

Don’t over explain, listen, shut up

Question 14

Counter Attack

Answer 14

Don’t do it. It distracts from the discussion