Managing Conflicts Flashcards
Conflict Defined
Conflict is defined as an expressed struggle between two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce rewards, and interference from the other party in achieving their goals.
The Nature of Conflict
- Expressed Struggle
- Perceived Incompatible Goals
- Perceived Scarce Rewards
- Interdependence
- Inevitability
No matter how close you are to somebody, there will be times when your ideas or actions or needs won’t match those of others around you.
Conflict is Natural
Effective communication during conflict can keep good relationships strong. People who work through their conflicts using constructive skills are more satisfied with their relationships and with the outcomes of their conflicts.
Conflict Can be Beneficial
Outcomes fall short of what is possible and have a damaging effect on the relationship
Dysfunctional conflict
Achieve the best possible outcome, and strengthen the relationship
Functional conflict
Polarization
Polarized partners underestimate commonalities shared, miss areas of agreement and goodwill
Integration
Integrated partners recognize the legitimacy of the other person’s concerns
Seeing one another as opponents prevents partners from finding solutions that can satisfy both
Opposition
seeks an answer that will leave everyone happy
Co-operation
Confirmation versus Disconfirmation
Using supportive instead of defensive behaviour
Agreement versus Coercion
Relying on power as the main means of getting what you want
Focusing versus Drifting
Bringing in issues that have little or nothing to do with the original problem instead of focusing on the problem at hand
Jumping into a conflict without thinking about constructive approaches, thinking about winning the fight but not the consequences of doing so, overlooking a solution that would satisfy both partners’ goals
Foresight versus Short-Sightedness
Consequences of dysfunctional conflict:
- No-one is likely to get what they want
- Can threaten the future of a relationship
the inability or unwillingness to express thoughts or feelings in a conflict
Nonassertion
physical or conversational, steering clear of conflict
Avoidance
giving in; putting other’s needs ahead of your own
Accommodation
expressing a criticism or demand that threatens the face of the person at whom it is directed.
Direct Aggression