Improving Communication Climates Flashcards

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Communication Climate

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the emotional tone of a relationship

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Confirming Communication

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messages that convey valuing

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Disconfirming Communication

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messages that show a lack of regard

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Types of Confirming Messages:

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  • Recognition
  • Acknowledgement
  • Endorsement
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Types of Disconfirming Messages:

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  • Verbal Abuse
  • Complaining
  • Impervious Response
  • Interrupting
  • Irrelevant
  • Tangential
  • Impersonal
  • Ambiguous
  • Incongruous
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Disagreeing messages

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  • Argumentativeness: arguing in a way that is disrespectful to the other person
  • Complaining: registering dissatisfaction by complaining, behavioural vs. personal
  • Aggressiveness: attacking the ideas/beliefs of another, trying to inflict psychological pain
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How Communication Climates Develop

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  • Spiral
  • Escalatory Conflict Spiral
  • De-escalatory Conflict Spiral
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A reciprocating communication pattern in which each person’s message reinforces the other’s

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Spiral

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The most visible way that disconfirming messages reinforce one another; can lead to a full-fledged battle

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Escalatory Conflict Spiral

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When parties slowly lessen their dependence on one another, withdraw, and become less invested in the relationship (less obvious)

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De-escalatory Conflict Spiral

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A ”you never do the dishes” B “You never fill up the car”

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Negative reciprocal communication patterns: Complaint - Counter complaint

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A “I just can’t understand how you can think that way” B “Well, I don’t understand why you can’t figure it out”….

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Negative reciprocal communication patterns: Disagreement - Disagreement

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A “Go ahead do what ever you want it does not matter to me” B “Ok, what ever , don’t expect me to be home on time”

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Negative reciprocal communication patterns: Mutual indifference

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A “You’re not listening to me!” B “Well, you’re not explaining yourself very well!”

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Negative reciprocal communication patterns: Argument’s involving metacommunication

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Negative reciprocal communication patterns:

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  • Argument’s involving metacommunication
  • Mutual indifference
  • Disagreement - Disagreement
  • Complaint - Counter complaint
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A “I really don’t understand this project, it’s so difficult” B “I can see why it is a challenge, perhaps I can explain…”

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Positive reciprocal communication patterns: Validation of other’s perspective

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A “I can’t believe you want to spend the whole day inside on such a sunny day!”
B-”It is a beautiful day, and normally I would be outside, but today I have a ton of work to do.”

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Positive reciprocal communication patterns: Recognizing similarities

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A. “This project is driving me nuts, I am never going to get it done!”
B. “I can see it is difficult, what can I do to help you get it off your plate.”

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Positive reciprocal communication patterns: Supportiveness

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Positive reciprocal communication patterns:

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  • Validation of other’s perspective
  • Recognizing similarities
  • Supportiveness
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process of protecting our presenting self, our face.

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Defensiveness

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an inconsistency between two conflicting pieces of information, attitudes, or behaviour

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Cognitive Dissonance

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messages that seem to challenge the image we want to project

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Face-Threatening Acts

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psychological devices that resolve dissonance by maintaining a positive presenting image

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Defense Mechanisms

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Types of Defensive Reactions

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  • Attacking the Critic
  • Distorting Critical Information
  • Avoiding Dissonant Information
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Verbal Aggression

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assaulting the critic directly

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Sarcasm

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less direct form of aggression

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logical but untrue explanation of behaviour that is unacceptable to the self

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Rationalization

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emphasizing a strength in one area to cover up a weakness in another

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Compensation

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claiming you can’t do something

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Regression

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Attacking the Critic

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  • Verbal Aggression

- Sarcasm

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Distorting Critical Information

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  • Rationalization
  • Compensation
  • Regression
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Avoiding Dissonant Information

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  • Physical Avoidance
  • Repression
  • Apathy
  • Displacement
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mentally blocking out dissonant information

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Repression

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acknowledging unpleasant information but

pretending you don’t care

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Apathy

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when we vent aggressive or hostile feelings against people or objects that are seen as less threatening than the person or persons who threatened us originally

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Displacement

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six types of defense-arousing communication and six contrasting behaviours that reduce the level of threat and defensiveness by conveying face-honoring relational messages of respect

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Gibb categories:

  • Evaluation vs. Description
  • Control vs. Problem Orientation
  • Neutrality vs. Empathy
  • Superiority vs. Equality
  • Certainty vs. Provisionalism
  • Strategy vs. Spontaneity
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Evaluation vs. Description

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Evaluation - defensive behaviour; “you” language

Descriptive - focuses on the speaker’s thoughts and
feelings instead of judging the other person

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Control vs. Problem Orientation

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Controlling - sender seems to impose a solution on
the receiver

Problem Orientation - finding a solution that satisfies
all parties

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Neutrality vs. Empathy

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Neutrality - disconfirming and indifferent attitude; lack of concern

Empathy - putting oneself in another’s place

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Superiority vs. Equality

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Superiority - “I’m better than you” belief

Equality - see others as having the same worth as
human beings

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Certainty vs. Provisionalism

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Certainty - regarding own opinions as absolutes

Provisionalism - willing to acknowledge others’
opinions and change stand if it seems reasonable

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Strategy vs. Spontaneity

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Strategy – speaker’s hide their ulterior motives, dishonesty and manipulation

Spontaneity –simply means expressing yourself honestly (misleading label, does not mean you “blurt” things out)

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Responding Non-defensively to Criticism

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  • Seek More Information

- Agree With The Critic

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Seek More Information by:

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  • Ask for specifics
  • Guess about specifics
  • Paraphrase the speaker’s ideas
  • Ask what the critic wants
  • Ask about the consequences of your behaviour
  • Ask what else is wrong
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Agree With The Critic by:

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  • Agree with the facts

- Agree with the critic’s perception*

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Top 10 list for handling criticism

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  1. See it as a stepping stone
  2. Recognize the potential of truth
  3. Separate the critic from the criticism
  4. Recognize the opportunity for major personal growth
  5. Forgive the critic right away
  6. Don’t dwell on the criticism
  7. Always journal what you’ve learned
  8. Learn the lesson thoroughly
  9. Talk about it as little as possible
  10. Evaluate your progress
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See criticism as a stepping stone

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we all experience criticism in life, the more we achieve the more we get

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There is either a hint of the truth or the potential for truth in every criticism

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Recognize the potential of truth

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We tend to think in an “all or nothing” structure, remember the critic may not be credible or well intentioned

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Separate the critic from the criticism

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Challenge yourself to see how the criticism is going to help you

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Recognize the opportunity for major personal growth

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Recognize that the critic giving criticism may not know what they are doing, it comes from a lack of maturity or a feeling of inferiority

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Forgive the critic right away

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Don’t dwell on the criticism

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learn from it and let it go!

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record what you’ve learned from criticism

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Always journal what you’ve learned

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what good is it to keep repeating the same behaviour over and over , commit to handling the situation better the next time

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Learn the lesson thoroughly

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even if you are not guilty of the criticism talk about it as little as possible

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Talk about it as little as possible

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each time you encounter criticism you should notice growth in the way you handle it

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Evaluate your progress