Life Calling Ch. 7 Quiz Flashcards
“It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head—it is the unique intersection of both.”
David Caruso
an area or range of personal distinctness characterized by specific qualities
Domain
that part of the consciousness that involves feeling and the capacity to detect and respond to sensory stimuli
emotion
the capacity of our lives that enables us to correctly experience and use feelings and sensibility
emotional strengths
the totality of surrounding things, conditions, or in influences
environment
non-rational, internal sensation not connected with sight, hearing, taste, smell, or what is classically correlated to touch
feeling
responsiveness or susceptibility to sensory stimuli
sensibility
qualities or features that bring power, force, vigor, or sustenance
strengths
the two psychologists
- John Mayer, a psychologist at the University of New Hampshire
- Peter Salovey, a psychologist at Yale University
Basis for emotional intelligence
- Identify and express emotions
- Use or generate emotions
- understand emotions
- manage emotions
Identify and express emotions
(a) being aware of emotional clues in yourself and in people around you
(b) being able to discern between different types of emotion
(c) being able to identify the level of intensity to which the emotion is present
(d) being able to identify what these emotional clues mean
A blueprint for emotions
- Identify: what emotions are you experiencing?
- Use: how are these emotions directed and impacting thinking?
- Understand: what causes these emotions? how might these emotions change?
- Manage: how do you manage your emotions and others’ emotions?
“If any of you think you are something when you are nothing, you deceive your- selves. Each of you should test your own actions. en you can take pride in yourself, without comparing yourself to somebody else, for each of you should carry your own load.”
Galatians 6:3-5
“‘Am I a dog, that you come at me with sticks?’ And the Philistine cursed David by his gods. ‘Come here,’ he said, ‘and I’ll give your flesh to the birds and the wild animals!’”
1 Samuel 17:43-44
“Immediately Jesus knew in his spirit that this was what they were thinking in their hearts…”
Mark 2:8
“Why does your face look so sad when you are not ill? is can be nothing but sadness of heart”
Nehemiah 2:2
Identifying emotions (skilled and unskilled)
Skilled: -Knows what people feel -Will talk about feelings -Comfortable showing how they feel -Expresses both positive and negative feelings -Reads people accurately -Good at recognizing own feelings Unskilled: -Misreads people's feelings -Doesn't talk about feelings -Never shows feelings -Does not know how to express feelings -Fails to identify how others feel -Misunderstands own feelings
Using emotions (skilled and unskilled)
Skilled:
-Uses emotions to be creative
-Inspires people
-Focuses on what’s important when emotions are strong
-Emotions improve their thinking
-Can feel what others are feeling (empathy)
-Feelings help to inform and change beliefs
Unskilled:
-Purely practical, logical, and concrete
-Doesn’t motivate others
-Forgets what’s important when upset
-Feelings are flat or distracting
-Emotions are self‐absorbed and not influenced by others’ feelings
-Doesn’t know how feelings influence thinking
Understanding emotions (skilled and unskilled)
Skilled:
-Makes correct assumptions about people
-Knows the right thing to say
-Makes good predictions about what people may feel
-Has a sophisticated emotional vocabulary
-Understands that one can experience mixed conflicted feelings
-Has vast emotional knowledge
Unskilled:
-Misunderstands people
-Says things to upset people
-Is surprised by how people feel and behave
-Finds it hard to explain feelings
-Experiences on‐or‐off emotions, with few shades of gray
-Has only a basic understanding of emotions
Managing emotions (skilled and unskilled)
Skilled:
-Emotions focus attention, inform decision making, and energize adaptive behavior
-Can “psych up,” calm down, or maintain a mood as desirable
-Can cheer others up, calm them down, or manage others’ feelings appropriately
-Is open to one’s feelings and the feelings of others
-Leads a rich emotional life
Unskilled:
-Emotions are distracting and derail adaptive behavior
-Is a slave to passions and acts impulsively
-Has no intentional impact on others’ feelings, has unintentional impact on others’ feelings
-Shuts off feelings and represses them
-Leads an emotionally impoverished life
Who talked about the last 30-40 years having a rise in individualism?
Seligman
Intra-personal
1) self-awareness
2) self-management
Inter-personal
1) social-awareness
2) relationship-awareness
Optimist responds to failure:
1) Interpersonal (outside):
2) Intrapersonal (inside):
1) view the situation as something that can be changed (is in their control)
2) view the situation as an opportunity to grow (pure joy)
