Lecture 9: Growing up in a Family Flashcards
discipline
the set of strategies parents use to teach their children how to behave appropriately
when is discipline effective?
if a child stops engaging in inappropriate behaviour and engages in appropriate behaviour instead
what does discipline ideally lead to?
internalization
internalization
the process by which children learn and accept the reasons for desired behaviour
example of internalization
a child abides by the parents’ rules/norms even when the parent isn’t present
how to foster internalization?
- Using reasoning that focuses on the effects of a behaviour on someone else
- Reasoning has to be combined with psychological pressure to foster internalization
benefit of reasoning that focuses on the effectiveness of a behaviour on someone else
It teaches empathy
too little psychological pressure
the child disobeys and ignores the message
too much psychological pressure
- The child is obedient but only because they feel forced to do it
- They will only comply if there is a risk of being caught
the right amount of psychological pressure
a slightly raised voice and a disapproving look are often enough
2 dimensions of parenting
- Discipline/ control
- Sensitivity/ support/ warmth
Discipline/ control
the extent to which parents monitor and manage their children’s behaviour through rules and consequences
Sensitivity/ support/ warmth
the extent to which parents mirror their children and are responsive to them
high control, high warmth
authoritative parent
high control, low warm
authoritarian parent
low control, high warmth
permissive parent
low control, low warmth
uninvovled parent
authoritative parents
- High in sensitivity/warmth and discipline
- Attentive and responsive to the child’s needs and concerns and respect the child’s perspective
- Set clear standards and limits for their children and are firm and consistent about enforcement, but allows autonomy within those limits
effect of authoritative parenting on kids
- Good self-confidence
- Socially skilled (tend to have many friends and are well-liked)
- Behave following adults’ expectations
- Do well academically
authoritarian parents
- High in discipline, but low in sensitivity
- Cold and unresponsive to a child’s needs
- Expect the child to comply with the parent’s desires without question
- Exercise power by using threats, punishments, and psychological control
effect of authoritarian parenting on kids
- Creates hostility in children and refusal to internalize parents’ message
- More likely to rebel against parents’ rules
- Lower self-confidence and generally higher levels of mental health problems
- Lower social competence
- More behavioural problems, like aggression and delinquency
permissive parenting
- High in sensitivity, but low in discipline
- Responsive to child’s needs and wishes but are overly lenient
- Do not require the child to regulate themselves or act in appropriate ways
effect of permissive parenting on kids
- Higher in impulsivity
- Low academic achievement
- More behavioural problems, like delinquency and aggression
uninvolved parenting
- Low in discipline and sensitivity
- Generally disengaged from parenting
- Sometimes rejecting and neglectful
- Focused on their own needs instead of the child’s needs
effect of uninvolved parenting on kids
- Struggle with self-worth and mental health problems
- Insecure attachment
- Low in social competence
- Low in academic achievement
- More behavioural problems
parenting of moms
- Spend on average, even those that work, 1.5 hours more with their children than dads
- More likely to provide physical care and emotional support to children
parenting of dads
More likely to play with children
importance of parenting of moms vs dads
- Parenting by moms and dads is equally important and affects children in similar ways
- Sensitivity from both is important for children’s mental health
parenting across cultures
there are many similarities, but some differences