Leadership and Self-deception Flashcards
Definition of self-betrayal
the inability to see that one has a problem
First step of self-betrayal
1-An act contrary to what I feel I should do for another is called an act of “self-betrayal”
The second step of self-betrayal
When I betray myself, I begin to see the world in a way that justifies my self-betrayal.
The third step of self-betrayal
When I see my self-justifying world, my view of reality gets distorted.
The fourth step of self-betrayal
When I betray myself, I enter into the box.
The fifth step of self-betrayal.
Over time, certain boxes become characteristic of me, and I carry them with me.
The sixth step of self-betrayal.
By being in the box, I provoke others to be in the box.
The seventh step of self-betrayal.
In the box, invite mutual mistreatment and obtain mutual justification. We collude in giving each other reason to stay in the box.
Perceptions when inside the box vs outside the box
When we are in the box people are objects and labels. Outside the box, they are people with thoughts and feelings.
Ways we get out of the box.
See people as people and look for our own box, not others’ boxes.
