Exam 3.3 Highlighted notes Flashcards
what are the inclusion types (social) for interpersonal needs
- undersocial (deficient): afraid of rejection
- oversocial (excessive): engage in everything, don’t wanna b ignored/by themselves
- social (healthy)
- pathological (not part of group): can’t act w/ other ppl
what are the affection types for interpersonal needs
- underpersonal (deficient)
- overpersonal (excessive): want close relationship w/ everyone
- personal (healthy): have both superficial/intimate relationships
- pathological: incapable of intimacy
what are the control types for interpersonal needs
- abdicrat (deficient)
- autocrat (excessive): likes to dominate
- democrat (healthy): give/take orders
- pathological: do what they want, psycho
what are the 2 elements in all three types of needs (inclusion, affection, control)
- expressed: what you actually do (behavior)
2. wanted: internal desires
What are the classical approaches of personalities
- authoritarianism (control)
- machiavellianism (control)
- extraversion/introversion (inclusion)
- neuroticism (control)
- locus of control (control)
(A Man Never Ever Intentionally Lies)
what is authoritarianism (5)
- rely on authority beliefs
- desire to control
- stubborn
- dislike ambiguity
- follow plans, no deviations
- comm w/ ppl hard to distinguish btween content/relational
what is machiavellianism (3)
- manipulate others
- high, know what works best in what situations.
- low, better distinguishing ppl
what is extraversion/introversion (2)
- extravert, behavior direct at others, comm quick, louder, more eye contact
- intravert, behavior at self
what is neuroticism (4)
- no explanation for why it happens
- anxiety
- insecure
- depressed
what is locus of control (3)
- view event internally/externally
- external, don’t feel control of situation
- internal, able to control situation
what are the modern approaches of personalities (3)
- willingness to communicate w/ others
- verbal aggression
- self-monitoring
what is the ‘willingness to communicate w/ others’ (4) type personality
- similar to social anxiety
- high/low options
- more ppl u comm w/, less willing. vice versa
- high comm skills associated w/ positive outcomes
what is ‘verbal aggression’ (3) type personality
- interpersonal behavior that applies force to dominate
- can be constructive, increase intimacy
- can be destructive, dissatisfaction from at least one person
what is ‘self-monitoring’ type personality
- ppl monitor their external ques to guide behavior
- high/low
what is a high self monitoring personality trait (4)
- think about external ques more
- longer gazes
- talk more
- not shy
what is a low self monitoring personality trait (3)
- don’t think at all
- day whats on mind
- look at partner all the time
name some differences between men and women
- environmental - gender (social definition)
- biological - sex
- gender differences seem to make difference, not sex.
what are the themes of masculinity (5)
1. don't be female be: 2.successful 3. aggressive 4. sexual 5. self-reliant
(Fuck Shit and Shit Stains)
what are the themes of femininity (4)
- appearance still counts
- be sensitive and caring
- negative treatment by others
- be superwomen
what is a relationship driven type of marital commitment (2)
- interdependence and +/- attributes
2. typically more satisfied
what is an event driven relationship (molecular) (3)
- singular events are individual unique instances (major events, ie. meeting parents, etc)
- women not as happy if event driven
- more unsure bout getting involved
what are the 3 components of commitment
- commitment to spouse
- commitment to marriage
- feelings of entrapment
what is the commitment to spouse
- attraction to certain partner
- relational satisfaction
what is commitment to marriage
- moral obligation
- sanctity of marriage
- honor marriage vows
- social implications, religion
what is feelings of entrapment
- constraining force
- real/imagined, prevent from end
what are the 3 types of cognitive commitments
- personal commitment
- moral commitment
- structural commitment
(Phuck Me Sideways)
what is personal commitment
-satisfied & attracted to person
what is moral commitment
- moral obligations
- religion
what is structural commitment
- living arrangements
- barriers
- no alternatives
- if stable living, can be satisfied
what are the 2 main variables in family communication
- integration (cohesion)
2. adaptability (the ability to change)
explain integration in family communication
- cohesion - emotional bond
- can be low/high
- disengaged –> separated –> connected –> enmeshed
- too high = over identification, no individualism
- disengaged= family autonomous
- function best at connected/separated
what is adaptability in family communication
- ability to change power structure, roles, and rules as response
- rigid–>structured–>flexible–>chaotic
- best fuction at structured/flexible
- rigid/chaotic= problems
what are 8 family characteristics and processes
- interdependence
- mutual influence
- wholeness
- patterns and rules
- calibration and feedback
- adaptation
- information processing
- organizational complexity
(Many People Care About Ignorant Whores In Orgies)
what are the 4 components of divorce that must be dissolved in order for divorce to happen
- love for partner
- attachment to routine w/ partner
- attachment to role of being husband/wife
- legal commitment
whats the difference between an orderly vs. disorderly divorce
- orderly, all 4 components of divorce are dissolved
- disorderly, minimum of one must exist
What are the 6 core arguments of the communication privacy management theory
- tension to reveal/conceal
- ppl believe they own info
- develop/acquire rules
- receiver becomes co-owner
- rights/responsibilities of new co-owner
- boundary turbulence when rule broken
explain dialectical tension of revealing/concealing private info
-how we want to reveal that info
explain how people believe they own their own private info
-we grant access to who gets that info
explain the argument of ppl developing/acquiring rules for how they share their private info
- want some1 else to know, but make up rules for why we share that info
- explicit rules/implicit rules
- 3 properties
- develop based on 5 criteria
explain explicit rules
being clear that you don’t want them to tell anyone
explain implicit rules
- don’t make direct statement
- assume
- nature of relationship can be reason
what are the 3 properties that occur when developing/acquiring rules on how ppl share private info
- grow & change w/ relationship
- stable to guide judgments
- routine, highly dependable
what are the 5 criteria that might motivate us to reveal private info
- cultural
- gendered, more likely to revel if receiver woman (no matter the sex), women disclose little more
- motivational
- contextual
- risk-benefit ratio
(Can Gay Men Contract Rabies)
what are the 3 different components that help explain the process of co-ownership
- boundary linkage
- boundary ownership
- boundary permeability
(Lick Only Pussy)
what is boundary linkage
-represents connection between you and the person you share info w/
what is boundary ownership (3 types of co-owners)
3 different types of co-owners
- deliberate confidant: seeks out info
- inferential confidant: expects info
- reluctant confidant: didn’t want info but got it
what is boundary permeability
bubble of ppl who are allowed in/out of that info.
-thick/thin
>thick: don’t share info easy
>thin: share info easy
what are the rights/responsibilities of the new co-owners of the private info
- likely to share w/ 3rd party
- likely to uphold rights if info learned intentionally
- explicit/implicit
when do we experience boundary turbulence
if someone learns info they weren’t supposed to.
-likely to occur if no explicit rules
what are the 6 different types of boundary turbulence
- intentional rule violations
- boundary rule mistake
- fuzzy boundaries
- dissimilar boundary orientation
- privacy dilemmas
- boundary definition predicaments
what are the 4 steps couples can do to fight fairly.
- soften approach
- make/receive repair attempts (jokes)
- sooth urself & each other
- accept flaws, find compromise
what is it called when there is a problem in the marriage that is not quite solvable
perpetual problems
what is the ultimate secret to marriage
friendship
connecting in little ways
