Exam 3.1 Notes Personality and Interpersonal Needs Flashcards
what are interpersonal needs
the needs in relations to other people, they stem from/occur w/in the context of social interaction
what is need
need is the concept that a condition must be actualized or realized or there will be undersired consequences
needs must be _________
balanced.
filled but not over filled
what are the 3 interpersonal needs
- inclusion
- affection
- control
define inclusion
to feel like you are a part of something
define affection
desire to have satisfactory relationships w/ others in terms of love
define control
power and sense of control in our lives; desire for respect.
What are two elements of all three needs
- expressed - what you actually do (behavior)
2. wanted - internal desire
what are 3 interpersonal communication motives
- pleasure - initiate comm w/ ppl when you want to have fun
- relaxation - catharsis for example
- escape - helps take worries off our mind
what are the four motives that are positively correlated with communication satisfaction
- pleasure
- affection
- inclusion
- relaxation
different attachment styles might promote different ____________ motives
interpersonal communication
what are personality traits
natural way in which ppl differ from each other
what is the implicit personality theory
- we have beliefs that others have the personality traits we think they have
- may/may not be accurate
- not a good predictor when we pair w/ specific situations
what is interactionism
-very little predictor of behavior, but when paired w/ specific situation, can aid
personality + context = predicts behavior
what is the selection bias
ppl will match their situations w/ their personalities
what is a communicator style
viewed as a trait, as part of our personality
-the way one verbally/nonverbally interacts to signal how literal to be understood
what are the three communicator styles
- open
- attentive
- dramatic
what is the open communicator style
- process of transmitting info about self, signal that msgs we communicate are personal, private, unambiguous
- take us seriously
what is the attentive communicator style
- posture, restate what other person says to us.
- direct gazes
- attentiveness to indicate interest (nodding head)
what is the dramatic communicator style
- manipulates msgs w/ exaggerations, stories, metaphors, etc.
- highlight/alter the actual meaning
what are the 2 dimensions of the different social styles
- assertiveness - ppl willing to make claims, argue point of view
- responsiveness - show that you are listening, making it clear you understand
what are the 4 different social styles
- analytical
- driver
- amiable
- expressive
what is the analytical social style
- not making lots of claims
- not arguing point
- also looks like not listening
- could be interpreting, in deep thought
- low response, low assertiveness
what is the driver social style
- high in assertiveness
- low in response
- can be argumentative
- make claims
- talking but not listening
what is the amiable social style
- low assertiveness
- high in response
- attentive, listen, ask questions
- wont refute anything you say
what is the expressive social style
- high assertiveness
- high in response
- make lots of claim
- argumentative
- listens really well too.
- high in both
what are some commitment concerns
partner’s beliefs about whether their relationship is likely to continue over the long run
many operationalize commitment as the ___________
likelihood of marrying the partner
what are attributions in marital relationships
- a type of cognition that represent explanations for why things occur.
- style varies as a function of whether a marriage is distressed/nondistressed
what is a distressed marriage
- a big positive becomes less positive
- thing that are less negatives become big negatives.
what is a nondistressed marriage?
- little positive enhanced into big positive
- big negative viewed as small negative
what are the 4 steps couples can do to fight fairly
- soften the way you make your approach
- learn to make/receive repair attempts (jokes)
- soothe yourself & each other
- learn to accept partners faults, find compromise
in fair fighting, what is it called when not every conflict in a marriage is solvable
perpetual problems
what’s the ultimate secret to a relationship
friendship
connect in little ways
