Communication Flashcards

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What did Gottman discover about intentions between couples?

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Unhappy couples and happy couples did not differ in what they intended to say to one another.

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What are 6 components of nonverbal communication?

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Facial expression, gazing, body movement, touch, interpersonal distance, and paralanguage.

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What are 4 ways to modify a facial expression?

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Intensify, minimize, neutralize, and mask.

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What is intensifying a facial expression?

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Exaggerating it to make it seem s though we are feeling more of the emotion than we are.

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What is minimizing a facial expression?

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Trying to hide a facial expression.

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What is neutralizing a facial expression?

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Trying not to give anything away.

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What is masking a facial expression?

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Replacing expressions with an entirely different emotion.

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How much do facial expressions differ around the world?

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They are relatively consistent, although the expressions of people from our own cultural group are more familiar.

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9
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What does gazing define?

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The relationship two people share once interaction begins.

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10
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In ordinary conversation, around what percentage of time is spent making eye contact while listening vs. talking?

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60% when listening, 40% when talking.

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How do high status persons differ in their visual dominance ratio?

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They spend more time making eye contact while they are talking.

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What is a visual dominant ratio (VDR)?

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The ratio that compares “look-speak” to “look-listen.”

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13
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Body language is said to be more what compared to facial expressions?

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Leakier.

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What kind of body language do high-status people have?

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Open, asymmetrical.

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What can touch signify?

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It can convey closeness and affection, or an implicit signal of dominance.

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When in a position of low status, what is thought of women who touch men?

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They are looked down on.

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17
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What are the four levels of interpersonal distance?

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Intimate, personal, social, and public.

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How far from the person is intimate distance? What does it convey?

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0-18”. Either conveys very loving or very hostile.

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How far from the person is personal distance? What is it used for?

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1.5-4’. Primarily friends.

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How far from the person is social distance? What is it used for?

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4-12’. Used for formal, business-like interactions.

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How far from the person is public distance?

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12’+

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22
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What is paralanguage?

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Variations in a person’s voice other than the actual words he or she uses, such as rhythm, pitch, loudness, and rate.

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23
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What is motherese?

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A paralanguage including higher pitches, enunciation, and focusing on present events.

24
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Who is motherese directed to towards?

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Children, pets, the handicapped, geriatric, or sick.

25
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What does paralanguage help define?

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What kind of relationship people have. Couples tend to speak to each other with different rhythms than their friends.

26
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What do people with appealing voices also tend to have?

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Appealing faces.

27
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What happens to our modes of communication when we are enjoying a conversation?

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We unconsciously mimic the other person’s mannerisms and paralanguage.

28
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What may occur when non-verbal exchanges fail?

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There may be errors in encoding or decoding of information.

29
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What is an interpersonal gap?

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When there is a misunderstanding between what was intended and what was communicated.

30
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What are two possible explanations for the correlation between marital satisfaction and nonverbal miscommunication?

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Nonverbal skills determine marital satisfaction, or dissatisfaction determines how hard they work to communicate well.

31
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Is nonverbal sensitivity more of a skill or is it the result of motivation?

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Motivated men and women did better than those that were not motivated.

32
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Compared to men/high-status individuals, how do women/low-status people act?

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Women/low-status people smile more, have lower visual dominance ratios, have closed, symmetrical posture, touch less, have less distance, submissive paralanguage, and have more nonverbal sensitivity.

33
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What is self-disclosure?

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The process of revealing personal information to someone else.

34
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What is the theory of social penetration?

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The type of self-disclosure that we engage in with our partners changes over the course of a relationship. Going from superficial disclosure to deeper, wider disclosure.

35
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After self-disclosure, what does sustained intimacy depend on?

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The responsiveness of partners.

36
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How do people want their self-disclosure to be responded to?

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With apparent understanding, caring, support, and respect.

37
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What is the most taboo topic in a relationship?

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The status of the relationship.

38
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What is the triangle test?

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A secret test of one’s lover’s fidelity. Watch their lovers interact with other potential lovers and see if they get similar treatment.

39
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What is the separation test?

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A secret test of one’s lover’s fidelity. One partner comes up with a reason why they must be apart and then looks to see what happens when they are united.

40
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How do taboo topics and relationship satisfaction correlate?

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More taboo topics lead to more dissatisfaction.

41
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What may happen to the breadth of topic and intimacy when a relationship is in trouble?

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It either decreases in both or decreases in breadth of topic only (i.e., only talking about one thing).

42
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Why does self-disclosure breed liking and contentment in relationships?

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We tend to tell those we like and like those we tell. We also like those that disclose to us.

43
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What are the 4 areas of gender difference in verbal communication?

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Topics of conversation, styles of conversation, self-disclosure, and instrumentality vs. expressiveness.

44
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What is the difference in topics of conversation between men and women?

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Women are more likely to discuss feelings about their close relationships, men talk about actions or objects and make more jokes.

45
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How do men and women’s styles of conversation differ?

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Women are more indirect and tentative; more rising inflection and questioning statements. Men’s usual style seems certain, knowledgeable, and dynamic.

46
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Do men or women speak more words per day?

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They speak the same amount. Men speak for longer, but women speak more often.

47
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Which sex is more self-disclosing?

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Women. Men disclose more to women, and so are more dependent on women for emotional warmth than the other way around.

48
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What is blirtatiousness?

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Being able to put thoughts and feelings into words quickly.

49
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What are three general categories of things that unhappy couples do?

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A poor job of saying what they mean, a poor job of hearing each other, and displaying negative affect when interacting.

50
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What is kitchen sinking?

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Addressing several issues at once.

51
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What is yes-butting?

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Finding something wrong or unworkable with anything their partner says.

52
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What is cross-complaining?

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Responding to complaints with one of your own.

53
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What is stonewalling?

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Clamming up and withdrawing into silence.

54
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What is destructive belligerence?

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Where one partner aggressively rejects the other altogether.

55
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What is most helpful when dealing with some in the process of bereavement?

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Provision of emotional support, opportunities for people to express their feelings, offering supportive companionship.

56
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What are two strategies employed in active listening?

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Paraphrasing messages and perception checking.