Chapter 8 - Love Flashcards
What are romantic relationships based on (4)
-Who we are
-Who our family/friends/partners are
-Time/place/experience (context)
-Societal perspectives
Before love was considered, why was marriage important? (3)
-Create family alliances
-Economic gain
-Have children (inheritance)
Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
-Intimacy
-Passion
-Commitment
Sternberg’s Intimacy
feelings of warmth, understanding, trust, support
Sternberg’s passion
physical arousal and desire, excitement, and need
Stenberg’s commitment
permanence, stability, and the decisions to devote oneself to a relationship and to work to maintain it.
Sternberg’s romantic love
Passion and Intimacy
Sternberg’s Companionate Love
Intimacy and Commitment
Sternberg’s Fatuous love
Passion and Commitment
Sternbeg’s nonlove
intimacy, passion, and commitment are all absent, love does not exist.
Sternberg’s liking
intimacy, passion, and commitment are all absent, love does not exist.
Sternberg’s infatuation
intimacy is high but passion and commitment are very low.
Sternberg’s infatuation
Strong passion in the absence of intimacy or commitment is infatuation
Sternberg’s empty love
Commitment without intimacy or passion is empty love.
Sternberg’s consummate love
Passion, commitment, intimacy
Is consummate love dynamic or static
dynamic, hard to maintain, lots of ebb and flow.
How does love affect the body’s physiology? (2)
-Increased dopamine
-Increased memory capacity
What aspects of love do the biological systems respond to? (3)
-Lust
-Attraction
-Attachment
How does the body respond to lust
hormone release driven by goal of reproduction
How does the body respond to attraction
neurotransmitter dopamine
How does the body respond to attachment
regulated by oxytocin to create comfort + connection
Which hormone is arousal fueled by
Adrenaline
Two components of passionate attraction
(1) physiological arousal such as a fast heart beat
(2) the belief that another person is the cause of your arousal
How do positive and negative arousal affect our attraction
Enhances our feelings of romantic attraction
Rubin (1973) love scale involves (3)
-Intimacy
-Caring
-Dependence (passion)
Which neurotransmitter does romantic love release
neurotransmitter dopamine
dopamine
activates pleasure centres
Which neuropeptide does companionate love release
Oxytocin
Oxytocin
promotes relaxation and reduces stress
Compassionate love
altruistic care and concern for partner’s wellbeing (intimacy with caring)
Styles of Loving (Lee 1988) (6)
-Eros
-Ludus
-Storge
-Mania
-Agape
-Pragma
Eros
finds good looks compelling and seeks an intense, passionate relationship.
Ludus
considers love to be a game and likes to play the field.
Storge
prefers friendships that gradually grow into lasting commitments.
Mania
demanding, possessive, and excitable.
Agape
Atruistic and dutiful
Pragma
Practical, careful, logical in seeking a mate.
unrequited love
romantic and passionate attraction to someone who did not return that interest
Is the distinction between romantic and companionate love dependent on cultural context
No, it is universal
What happens to romantic love after marriage
Decreases
Why does romantic love decline over time
fantasy erodes with time and experience.
Coolidge effect
effect of novelty arousal, increased arousal with a new partner
How does age effect love
people mellow with age, experience less intense love as time goes by.
