Chapter 5 Notes Flashcards
is intimacy with,caring for, and commitment to another person
Love
is a person who is temperamentally suited to another
-one’s best friend, cofidant, and romantic partner
soul mate
an emotionally intense,passionate love is which a person believes that there is love at first sight,that there is only one true love and that love conquers all.
Romantic Love
this emphasizes intimacy, with,affection for, and commitment to another person
- more stable
companionate love
Love is Natural High
- nature’s or evolution’s way of bringing males and females together for the purpose of reproduction and child rearing
Biochemical theory
our primary motivation in life is to be connected with other people
-its the only security we have. Survival need.
attachment theory
feeling at ease or comfortable
Stage 1: Rapport
the sharing of pleasures,ideas, humor, and sexual desires
Stage 3: Mutual Dependency
disclosing personal feeling
Stage 2: Self-Revelation
reinforcing each other,share each other’s goals, and help each other satisfy deeper needs
Stage 4: Intimacy Need Fulfillment
when you and your partner’s intimacy, passion, and decision/commitment are of the same intensity
consummate love
Love of beauty. Characterized by intense emotional attachment and powerful sexual feeling. Love at first site.
Eros
obsessive love. Strong sexual attraction and emotional intensity,extreme jealousy, and mood swings. Roller coaster
Mania
playful casual, and carefree. Focuses on sex as recreation rather the on ones serious relationship
Ludus
companionate love. Affectionate and peaceful friendship developing into long-lasting relationship
storage
altruistic love- unselfish,self-sacrificing love. Those who attempt to expense of their own other’s needs even at the expense of their own.
-children’s needs before parents
agape
Defining intimacy
1) The presence of love & affection
2) Personal validation
3) Trust
4) Self-disclosure
an unusual intolerant/hostile emotional response to a real/imagined threat to a love relationship
jealousy
_______ are more apt to become jealous when their partner becomes involved in an emotional and physical relationship
Women
________ are more apt to become jealous when they fear that their partner is sexually involved with someone else.
Men
love that is not returned
- more attractive rejects less attractive
- less serious rejects more serious
unrequited love
practical love. Love that makes a rational assessment of a potential partner’s positive and negatives. Education,income, etc.
-Love with a shopping list
Pragma
