Chapter 5 Lecture Notes Flashcards
5 different ways we present ourselves depending on social situation
1) ingratiation
2) intimidation
3) competant
4) exemplification
5) supplification
define ingratiation. Examples?
presenting yourself that you hope will get others to like you.
ex/ complimenting, using flattery, praising others, pointing out similarities
How did Seiter and Dutson (2007) study ingratiation? (hair stylists)
at a hair salon; stylists were asked to give clients a compliment (either directly about their hair or “any hairstyle looks good on you”), or no compliemnet.
DV= amount of tip given.
There was a significant drop in tip percentage if no compliment was given.
How did Zanna and Pack study ingratiation (pointing out similarities). What kind of design was this?
-studied if we pretend to be similar to someone if we want someone to like us.
- researched female participants
condition 1: researchers described male that is desirable
condition2: researchers described male that is undesirable.
- had women fill out a questionaire on their attitudes on WOMEN, but were showed the mans answer to see how he filled it out. the participants thought he’d see their response.
- the “mans response” either appeared to be very traditional, or that he favored equality for women.
2x2 design- male is either desirable/not, and had traditional/equal views/
outcome: when male was described as desirable, the women expressed the same attitudes towards women that he did, regardless if he expressed egalitarian or mysogynistic views. When male was not desirable, the views of the women differed.
Moner and Seroy coined the ingratiator’s dilemma. what is this?
the more desperate for someone to like you, the less effective your ability to employ the complimenting ingratiation strategies because it may not sound sincere.
problem with ingratiation: when person becomes aware that you are copying them or faking compliments, they will like you even LESS
How does a person in low power show intimidation? a person in high power?
high power: you make more eye contact, you may position yourself at the head of the table.
low power; you may try and manipulate the other person by threatening to kill yourself.
When presenting yourself as competant through self promotion, this tactic must be ____. why?
indirect. you can’t just tell someone that youre smart. You need to apply it. you may try to create situations where you can show off your competance. (ex/ hanging a diploma on a wall)
What is the self presentation method of exemplification? this tactic must be ____.
portraying yourself as a good person with good morals. Must be indirect, you can’t just say “i’m a good person” you have to show it.
What is the self presentation method of supplication?
wanting to come off as needy/helpless/dependent. wanting someone to help us, wanting sympathy.
What is the self evaluation maintenance model? Assumptions? What does it involve?
Focuses on how other people affect the way we evaluate ourselves.
assumes that we start life with wanting to feel good about ourselves ( may be culturally dependent)
- involves both REFLECTION and COMPARISON.
What is the reflection aspect of the self evaluation maintenance model?
the process of basking in the glory of someone else’s accomplisments who you are close to. Gives us an esteem boost.
In order to “positively” reflect on someone elses accomplishments, what two conditions must be observed? What do we often do as a result of this confidence boost?
we only bask in the glory of someone else’s accomplishments if:
1) we are close to someone
2) the accomplshment is societally astonishing
because we get a self esteem boost, we may:
1) exaggerate the accomplishment
2) exaggerate our relationship with the person.
what is the comparison aspect of the self evaluation maintenace model?
the idea that self esteem is threatened if we are OUTPERFORMED by someone, and if that person is close to you.
in the self evaluation maintenance model, we either ___ or ___ depending on how important the topic is for you to perform well in that area. What is this called?
in the self evaluation maintenance model, we either REFLECT or COMPARE depending on how important the topic is for you to perform well in that area.
Called RELEVANCE
if relevance is Low:
we are more likely to reflect and be happy for the person depending on how close they are to you