Chapter 4- The System Flashcards
Don’t find good situations….
CREATE good situations
All good and bad as a man
is YOUR responsibility
What are the 4 main steps in the system?
Attraction, rapport, seduction, Relationship balance
The three sub-phases of attraction are
1- Introduction
2- Demonstrating High Value
3- Qualifying
The Intro and attraction start…
The moment she knows you exist
First impressions are made from… (4 things)
1- Body Language
2- Neediness
3- Value
4- Verbal content
Being in a default attractive state means…
Having dominant but not over-dominant body language
Demonstrating high value is characterized by….
bantering
In demonstrating high value you want to….
Keep her attention for just long enough that she can see your body language and keep it content-free
Body language in attraction must be…
Both negative and positive, but show interest
Qualifying is….
To solicit feelings of desire to chase you
If a woman qualifies herself to you…
Accept it and move on to rapport
The two types of qualifiers are…
1- Questions Qualifier
2- Self-fulfilling prophecy
The Question qualifier is
“If you had to name your three most dominant qualities what would they be”
IF all three Question qualifier answers are in one category
move back to demonstrating high value
The self-fulfilling prophecy….
“You know, I don’t know why I am get this feeling about you, and maybe it is not true about you, but for some reason I’m getting this feeling that you’re a completely open person. Whenever I’m hanging out with you, I feel like I can try new stuff and it won’t be a big deal because you’re that kind of person too and that’s really comforting to me. I feel like a lot of people can’t do that because they’re too afraid of opening up. I don’t know if you know that you’re sending that feeling, but that’s what I’m getting and I appreciate it.”
The four steps to rapport are….
Light rapport, wide rapport, deep rapport, release
Rapport is….
Direct Emotional Transfer- the ultimate emotional investment
In light rapport…
Seek emotional connections by asking questions like “What did you do before you came her today?”
In wide rapport…
Find potential emotional connections with someone
In deep rapport…
Were the connection is made and all are vulnerable
In release….
Start over to light or wide rapport
The more connections that are made…
The stronger the relationship
Seduction is…
The overload of the emotional brain and the weakening of the logical brain
Seduction shall build…
A strong emotional brain and sexual attraction
Seduction=
Sex + Emotional Response
What is the redzone response?
When logical brain is so weak it must react
The reaction to the redzone response is…
A girl getting rid of you and everything that has to do with you
The four factors of relationship balance are…
Power (in decisions)
Compliance (priorities)
Value (Worth outside of relationship)
Neediness (investment)
The best thing to do to keep relationship balance is to
Communicate and be aware of each other’s place on the scale
Seeing the Matrix is…
Knowing where you are on the map of interaction at all times!
THe most important phase of the map is…
The phase you are in!
In attraction I act like a…
Boy, not a man
In rapport I act like…
A friend, not a little boy
In seduction I act like….
A man, not a friend
If attraction is skipped….
I will fall into the friend zone
If rapport is skipped….
I will encounter resistance later on
If seduction is skipped…
A passionless and short relationship will occur
If I skip relationship balance….
I will jump from girl to girl
Attraction is important because…
It leads to rapport
Rapport is important because….
It creates connection and love
Seduction is important because…
It creates passion and emotion
Relationship balance is important because…
It makes the relationship last
