9. Grieving Special Types of Losses Flashcards

1
Q

What are the special types of losses?

A

Suicide
Homicide
Sudden Death
Abortion
Anticipated Death
AIDS
Sudden Infant Death
Miscarriage
Stillbirth
Euthanasia
Disaster
Epidemic / Pandemic

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What are things people feel when a loved one commits suicide?

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Shame
Stigma
Guilt
Intense Anger
Low Self Esteem
Blame the person

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Who are at a higher rate to commit suicide?

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Elderly and teens

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What are ways we can counsel survivors of Suicide victims?

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  • Reality test the guilt and blame
  • Correct denial and distortions
  • Explore fantasies of the future
  • Work with anger
  • Reality test the sense of abandonment
  • Help them in their quest to find meaning of death
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What are often citied homicides (but not limited to)?

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  • Illegal drug trafficking
  • Domestic violence
  • Gang activities
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What are common bereaved typical reactions for the families of those who were murdered?

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  • Numbness
  • Rage
  • Guilt
  • Fear
  • Depression
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What are things to remember when it comes to sudden death / violent death?

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  • Occurs without warning
  • Feelings of guilt
  • Need to blame
  • Medical and legal authorities
  • Sense of helplessness
  • Unfinished business
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What does SIDS stand for?

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Sudden Infant Death Syndroms

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What is the leading cause of death in babies from 1 month to 1 year of age?

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SIDS

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What’s another term for SIDS?

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Cot / Crib death

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What is the cause of SIDS?

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There is no definite cause

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Does the legal system get involved in cases of SIDDS? Why or why not?

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Yes to check if it was SIDS or negligence

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How many pregnancies end in miscarriage?

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About 1/5 to 1/3

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Why is the grief more intense the longer the pregnancy went before a miscarriage?

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Because the bond was being formed as well as major milestones such as having the nursery ready and baby shower

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What are things to remember when it comes to a miscarriage?

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  • Socially negated loss
  • Sense of isolation in culture of motherhood
  • Self Blame
  • Father may feel powerless
  • Men and women focus on the lost dream
  • In laws or society like to get involved and talk shit about the woman
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16
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Is everything that’s true for a miscarriage also pertain to stillbirths?

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Yes

17
Q

What is something we have to recognize when there’s a stillbirth?

A

Parents have sustained a real loss, a death

18
Q

What’s the best adaption to stillbirths?

A
  • Similar coping styles
  • More open communication
19
Q

What should we as funeral directors be prepared for when it pertains to infants?

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  • Be prepared for mother to not want to let go of the baby
  • Some parents, at funeral, may want to hold baby, take out of casket, and that’s ok. Let them
  • If parents don’t want the casket at the funeral, that’s ok, take it away.
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What are things to consider when it comes to abortions?

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  • Socially negated
  • Unspeakable loss
  • Most would rather forget
  • Lack of emotional support
  • Counseling (pre and post abortion)
  • Delayed Grief
21
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When do people begin to experience Anticipation Grief?

A

Prior to loss

22
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What is a risk with Anticipation Grief?

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Early emotional withdrawal

23
Q

What is the point of hospice?

A

Helps with the care of the dying individual
Not treat the disease, treat the person
Goal is to make individual comfortable

24
Q

In early years, what was seen as a gay disease?

A

HIV / AIDS

25
Q

Who is mainly affected by HIV / AIDS?

A

Women
Children
Minorities

26
Q

What do survivors of HIV / AIDS tend to feel?

A

Rejection
Judgement
Anger
Guilt

27
Q

True or False

Some families will abandon an individual with HIV / AIDS (including babies)

A

True

28
Q

What is the most controversial topic?

A

Euthanasia

29
Q

What is the main reason for euthanasia?

A

Recognize and respond to the needs of terminally ill patients

30
Q

What are things felt during Natural Disasters?

A

Shock
Feeling overwhelmed
Panic
Anxiety
Anger
Irritability
Survivor’s guilt
PTSD

31
Q

How can people cope with natural disasters?

A

▪️Allow yourself to express emotions
▪️Don’t hesitate to accept support
▪️Give yourself time to heal
▪️ Re-establish to regular routines
▪️ Take time to relax
▪️Avoid major life decisions

32
Q

How is denial involved in epidemic / pandemic?

A

You believe the virus will not affect you

33
Q

How is anger involved in epidemic/ pandemic?

A

The government can’t control me

34
Q

How is bargaining involved in an epidemic/ pandemic?

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If I follow the govt for a little bit, everything will all be ok again soon

35
Q

How is sadness / depression involved in an epidemic / pandemic?

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You begin to freak because you don’t know when this will end

36
Q

How is acceptance involved in an epidemic/ pandemic?

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You just admit this shit is happening