week 5 Flashcards
an interactional unit in which all members influence each other
-joined together by common history, united by bonds of blood, marriage, mutual consent, or adoption
family
what do families help achieve (3)
- basic needs (safety and security)
- maintain order and control
- provide love
-families govern themselves by roles and rules
family roles (4)
- family hero (leader)
- scapegoat (troublemaker)
- lost child (quiet one)
- mascot (happy go lucky)
family rules (4)
- implicit rules
- explicit rules
- functional rules
- dysfunctional rules
not spoken or stated, but hidden
implicit rules
spoken rules or known
explicit rules
serves a person well, can be changed or adapted. these are the rules specific to the families needs
functional rules
harmful effect, these rules limit personal growth
dysfunctional rules
how families interact (3)
- open system
- closed system
- random system
common characteristics of healthy families (3)
- open communication
- faith or belief system
- rituals and traditions
a means of assessing the family
-genogram
the representation to show how a family relates, what is used to make a family tree (visual representation)
genogram
areas to consider with a families grief
- what role did the deceased play in the family unit?
- emotional integration
- how families facilitates or hinders self expression
- if considering counseling its the most effective for a family when the individuals are treated separately and then as a unit
maintaining balance
- homeostatic balance
- in healthy family units, make adjustments so balance returns but in unhealthy units balance does not return due to their rigidness
- comlicated grief may actually affect multiple generations (can be passed down)
occurs through roles, norms, and values in the family. grief disrupts this balance
homeostatic balance
children learn about death through
- religion
- family
- tv
- peers
- experience
needs of bereaved children and advice for parents regarding the funeral
advice for children needs;
-to be able to cry and express emotion
-given honest and age appropriate answers about death
-ways to remember the deceased
-involvement in events surrounding death
advice for parents;
-discuss importance of the funeral with children
-allow children participate if asked
-by age of 7 children should be encouraged to be involved
Maria Nagy
-theory is called “age of a Childs death of understanding” -
–birth to 3 years
-no concept of death
–3 to 5 years
-they know about death but think its reversible
-magical thinking
–5 to 9 years
-anthropomorphizing
–9 and older–
understanding that death is final, its going to happen to everyone
antrhopomorphizing
giving humanness to something that is not human
warning signs for grieving children (4)
- changes in school work or activity
- change in play habits
- normal to see a bit of regression
- eating and sleeping patterns
explaining death to children
what not to say;
- make believe stories or fairy tales to explain death
- something you dont believe yourself
- what they will have to unlearn later
what to say;
- share religious convictions
- speak in concrete terms rather than philosophical ones
- grant permission to cry/express feelings
- acknowledge when you don’t know the answer
