week 2 Flashcards
needs of the bereaved (6)
- confirm reality
- establish stability and security
- receive emotional support
- express emotion
- modify emotional ties to the deceased
- provides a basis for building new interpersonal relationships
theories relating to grief
- the ways to describe the mourning process typically is done with the vernacular of stages, phases or tasks
1. Freuds stages of mourning ;1 the bereaved must detach or break ties ; 2form a new identity without the loved one ; 3the reality of the loss must be confronted ;4 the grieving person may be preoccupied with the loss at first but this is normal precursor to detachment
- lindemanns stages of grief work ;1. emancipation form bondage to the deceased ; 2. adjust to life without the deceased ; 3. form new relationships
(-lindemanns grief syndrome also fits here) - bowlby’s phases of grief; part of his attachment theory, where grief is healthy and adaptive ;1. display shock and numbness; 2. yearning and searching ;3. despair and disorganization ; 4. reorganization and recovery
Dr. Wordens tasks of mourning
nbe and comps
- defining how one adapts to loss
- considered one of the most comprehensive views on grief
- do not need to be addressed in a specific order, but there is a point how they are ordered
- experienced differently based on specific loss
- tasks can be revisited/worked on through and through
- various tasks can be worked on at the same time
- grieving is a fluid process influenced by certain factors
tasks of mourning analogy
-dr. worden
task 1. to accept the reality of loss (autumn)
task 2. to process the pain of grief (winter)
task 3. to adjust to an environment in which the person/object is no longer present (spring)
task 4. to find an enduring connection with what has been lost in the midst of embarking on a new life (summer)
task 1; to accept the reality of loss
explaining task 1. there’s an issue in individual frame of reference for not wanting to believe the circumstances actually occurred
- issues within this task-
1. deny the facts - mummification
2. distortion
3. deny the meaning of the loss
4. deny through spiritualism - how the funeral relates in task 1-
- funeral is most helpful in helping individuals accept reality of the loss
retaining possessions of the deceased in a mummified condition ready for use when he or she returns
mummification
task 2; to process the pain of grief
explaining task 2; most people in the world try to avoid pain at all costs; probably most difficult task for people to go through because this is where the work begins
- issues within this task-
- a geographical cure
- drugs and alcohol
- working (excessively)
- shopping
- any type of compulsive behavior ; is an issue with processing pain
traveling from place to place and try to find some relief from their emotions, as opposed to allowing themselves to process the pain; to feel it and to know it will pass
geographical cure
task 3; to adjust to a world without the deceased
explaining task 3;
- external adjustment
- internal adjustment
- spiritual adjustment
- maladapted adjustment
task 4; to find an enduring connection with the deceased in the midst of embarking on a new life
- hallmark of healing; being able to remember without intense feelings emerging
- emotional relocation
- new relationship obstacles; at times feel like betrayal
- freuds thought ; “mourning has quite a precise cycle task to perform its function is to detach survivors hopes and memories from the dead
- duration of 6-12 months
being able to remember without intense feelings emerging
hallmark of healing
when are tasks of mourning completed?
- no definitive answer, but intensity subsides over time
- mourning is never completed, new situations bring up new complexities of our grief
- moves to diminish in intensity over time but can reawaken
checklist to tell if a person is healing
- does your grief interfere with your ability to care for yourself?
- do you find life meaningful?
- do you find yourself withdrawing from social settings or people in general?
- do you have physical/emotional symptoms you do not understand?
- have you noticed changes in your personality?
- do you have internal sense that you are not healing?
Wolfelt’s 6 reconciliation needs of mourners
-most modern approach
- acknowledge reality of death
- embracing the pain of the loss
- remember the person who died
- developing a new self identity
- searching for meaning
- receiving ongoing support from others
