week 4

Question 1

communication

Answer 1

• ongoing verbal, behavioural, affective exchanges which can occur face to face or via technology

Question 2

types of communication

Answer 2

• relationship
• sexual

Question 3

sexual communication

Answer 3

• broad term
• interactions concerning sexual matters
• can be verbal, non-verbal (touching, facial expressions, eye contact, gestures)

Question 4

importance of sexual communication

Answer 4

• positive outcome, relationship + sexual satisfaction
• resolve sexual incompatibilities

Question 5

non verbal sexual communication

Answer 5

• provides information about peoples moods, what they mean by what they say
• 60-65% of information exchanged in an interpersonal interaction
• quality of non-verbal communication better predictor of relationship satisfaction than verbal

Question 6

non-verbal sexual communication
moore (2010)

Answer 6

• flirting
• heterosexual women, eye contact, gazing, body orientation, smiling, self-grooming

Question 7

non-verbal sexual communication
(vannier & o’sullivan, 2010)

Answer 7

• initiation of sexual activity is frequently non-verbal
• minimize negative feelings of initiation if rejected, non-verbal
• can communicate likes and dislikes during sex, faster breathing etc

Question 8

good sexual communication

Answer 8

• appropriate time
• non judgemental language
• active listening
• “I” language

Question 9

four horseman relationship dissatisfaction
(gottman)

Answer 9

• criticism
• contempt
• defensiveness
• stonewalling

Question 10

sexual communication
consent

Answer 10

• communication is essential
• act of freely and willingly agreeing to participate in sexual activity
• sexual consent = ongoing, can be retracted at any time, highly specific, provided enthusiastically

Question 11

sexual compliance

Answer 11

• when a person freely consents to engaging in sexual activity even when they do not truly want to participate

Question 12

byers et al (2009)

Answer 12

• what does it mean to have sex
• intercourse, oral

Question 13

oral sex
- woman
- man
- anus

Answer 13

• woman, cunnilingus
• man, fellatio
• anus, anilingus

Question 13

sexual satisfaction

Answer 13

• younger age, relationship satisfaction, lifestyle, communication = higher possible sexual satisfaction

Question 14

gottman
criticism

Answer 14

• attacking a person’s character instead of the issue

Question 15

gottman
contempt

Answer 15

• putting someone down, being hostile, disrespectful

Question 16

gottman
defensivness

Answer 16

• making excuses, being mean back

Question 17

gottman
stonewalling

Answer 17

• refusing to engage in discussion ever, inability to move on