Week 3 - Close Relationships (2) - "Maintaining Relationships" Flashcards

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Bowlby suggested that attachment style originates early in life and shapes relationships…..

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From the ‘cradle to the grave’

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What is responsiveness?

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Attentive and supportive recognition of one person’s needs and interests by another

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What are some examples of perceived partner responsiveness?

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  • Feeling understood
  • Feeling valued, respected and validated
  • Feeling cared for
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What are the benefits of responsiveness?

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  • Personal outcomes
  • Relationship outcomes
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5
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Where do perceptions stem from?

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  • Attachment orientation
  • Projection - believing everyone has same belfies and attitudes ad us
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How well can we detect partner scarifies?

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No - only 50% detected and false alarms

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7
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Seeing a partner’s sacrifices boosts what?

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Gratitude

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Missed sacrifices causes what?

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Leaves partner feeling underappreciated after they sacrificed

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9
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Feeling grateful benefits what?

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  • People’s health and happiness
  • Quality and longevity of relationships
  • Buffers insecurely attached individuals’ relationship satisfaction and commitment
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10
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How many conflicts do dating couples have per week?

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2.3 conflicts per week

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How many ‘memorable differences of opinion’ do married couples have per week?

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3-4

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12
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How many ‘unpleasant disagreements’ do married couples have?

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1-2 a month

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13
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It’s not couples having conflicts that matter; what does matter?

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How they approach the conflict

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14
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What is the theory of the four Horsemen of the Apocalypse?

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Conflict patterns that are particularly toxic and predictive of divorce

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What are the four horsemen of the apocalypse?

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  • Criticism
  • Contempt
  • Defensiveness
  • Stonewalling (refusal to respond)
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16
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What are transgressions?

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Harmful actions by others we trusted and whom we did not expect to misbehave

17
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Why is forgiveness good?

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  • Helps to repair relationship
  • Promotes victims personal well-being
18
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Factors that benefit conflict and forgiveness?

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  • Commitment - motivation to make it work
  • Self-control - ability to act constructively
19
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What does commitment and self control predict?

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  • Accomodation
  • Staying faithful
  • Forgiveness
20
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What is self-expansion?

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In new relationships, people rapidly expand their sense of self through new experiences with their partner

21
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How to keep the spark alive?

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inject novelty/ excitement into the relationship

22
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What did the meta-analysis by Le et al suggests are the four main predictors of break up and divorce?

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Commitment
Closeness
Network support
Insecure attachment types

23
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When people were asked what had caused their divorce, what were the top 3 answers?

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Infidelity - 222%
Incompatible - 19%
Drinking/ substance abuse - 11%

24
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When people were asked what had caused their divorce, what were the bottom 3 answers?

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Don’t know - 3%
Love was lost - 4%
Physical or mental abuse - 6%

25
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What risk factors are there for divorce ?

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  • High socioeconomic status: less likely to divorce
  • Race: higher risk for divorce
  • Influence of divorce laws
  • Working woman: higher divorce rate
  • Expensive wedding: higher risk of divorce
  • Age: younger than 25, more likely
  • Parental divorce: more likely if family members have had a divorce
  • Stressful life events, trauma: more likely to divorce
26
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How long goes pain go on for after break-up/ divorce?

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Average 6 months

27
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What influences how much pain your in after a break up?

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Depend on attachment

28
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Is being single a good predicator of well being?

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No - depends if individual wants to be single or not

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