TRM Flashcards
women first priority
Security
o que é ONE its?
A crença irracional na existecia de uma alma gemea
Quais os prejuizos da crença em ONEits?
No momento em que voce “acha” sua alma gemea, vc acaba criando uma dependencia doentia pela pessoa. Principalmente se nao for reciproco.
What is Feminine Mystique?
The apparently confusion on their behavior, and the lack of integrity on their word, once she can always change her mind if it feels “right”.
Qual a função da “feminine mystique”?
Free-pass on hypergamy.
“Nothing is more threatening yet simultaneously attractive to a woman than a man who is aware of his own value to women.”
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What kind of man do women want?
ideally women want a Man that other women want to fuck, but in order to assess his sexual market value to other women he’s got to have exercisable options for her to compete against, or at least display indirect social proof to that effect. So, she needs to limit his options while simultaneously determining he has these options.
For what shit tests are used for?
“Essentially a shit test is used by women to determine one, or a combination of these factors:
a.) Confidence – first and foremost
b. ) Options – is this guy really into me because I’m ‘special’ or am I his only option?
c. ) Security – is this guy capable of providing me with long term security?”
What is the most basic affront to the feminine imperative?
“For a woman, to encounter a man with a healthy awareness of his own value to women, this constitutes a threat. Here is a man for whom’s attention women will demonstrably compete for, and he knows this. This is the most basic affront to the feminine imperative; to be unplugged, of high sexual market value and to derive a sense of confidence from being consciously aware of it.”
What is the strategy to find unplugged men?
Using shit tests.
“Therefore, in order to promote and actualize her own sexual strategy, his self-confidence must be challenged with self-doubt, because if such a man were to use this knowledge to his own benefit he may not select her from a pool of better prospective women. Thus, in various ways, both consciously and subconsciously, she must ask him “Are you really sure of yourself? You think you’re so great?
Maybe you’re just egotist? Don’t tempt fate.”
Traditional Masculine traits
“characteristics that define traditional masculinity – independence, self-confidence, rugged individualism, be grounded, physical strength, risk taking, problem solving and innovation
Why is it important to never compromise yourself, especially on a shit test?
“There is no more a superior confidence for a man than one with the self-understanding that he will not compromise himself for the recognized manipulations of a woman, and the fortitude to walk away knowing he has in the past, and will in the future find a better prospect than her. This is the man who passes the shit test. It’s called ‘enlightened self-interest’, and a principle I wholly endorse.”
What is power?
“Real Power is the degree to which a person has control over their own circumstances. Real Power is the degree to which we actually control the directions of our lives.”
What’s the most useful tool in the game arsenal?
“A woman’s imagination is the single most useful tool in your Game arsenal. Every technique, every casual response, every gesture, intimation and subcommunication hinges on stimulating a woman’s imagination. Competition anxiety relies on it. Demonstrating Higher Value (DHV) relies on it”
Greatest failing of an AFC
“This is the single greatest failing of average frustrated chumps; they vomit out everything about themselves, divulging the full truth of themselves to women in the mistaken belief that women desire that truth as a basis for qualifying for their intimacy.
Learn this now: Women never want full disclosure. Nothing is more self-satisfying for a woman than to think she’s figured a Man out based solely on her mythical feminine intuition (i.e. imagination).
When a man overtly confirms his character, his story, his value, etc. for a woman, the mystery is dispelled and the biochemical rush she enjoyed from her imaginings, her suspicions, her self-confirmations about you are gone”
Familiarity
Is anti-seductive. “Nothing kills Game, organic passion and libido like comfortable familiarity. Despite their common filibuster tactics, women don’t want to be comfortable with a potential (or proven) sex partner, they need their imaginations stoked to be excited, aroused and anxious to want sex with a potential partner”
“What covertly, tactfully, demonstrably implying that other women find you desirable is useful for?”
To remind her daily why you’re fun, unpredictable and exciting, not only to her, but other women as well.
What’s the biggest cause of problems of AFCs and men in general, in intergender relationship?
Fear of rejection. 90% of problems disappear by overcoming fear of rejection.
What’s the secret to a good night? How you do it?
Emotions. Make yourself feel it first. Be selfish, search for your own pleasure, let her have the honor of give it to you.
What the commandment “Maximize your strengths and minimize your weaknesses”means?
“In the betterment of ourselves as men we attract women into our orbit. To accomplish this gravitational pull as painlessly and efficiently as possible, you must identify your natural talents and shortcomings and parcel your efforts accordingly. If you are a gifted jokester, don’t waste time and energy trying to raise your status in philosophical debate. If you write well but dance poorly, don’t kill yourself trying to expand your manly influence on the dance floor. Your goal should be to attract women effortlessly, so play to your strengths no matter what they are; there is a groupie for every male endeavor. Except World of Warcraft.”
What is plate theory?
“Just like the plate spinner, a Man needs to have a lot of simultaneous prospects spinning together.
Think of each plate as a separate woman you are pursuing. Some fall off and break, others you may wish to stop spinning altogether and some may not spin as fast as you’d like, but the essence of plate theory is that a man is as confident and valuable as his options. This is the essence of the abundance mindset – confidence is derived from options.”
The cardinal Rule of relationships
“In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least”
Why plate theory is important?
Cause it causes a true change in the core beliefs in the mans mind.
“There are mannerisms and attitudes that a man with options will subconsciously convey to prospective women that they interpret, and give this man a value as a commodity to be competed for with other females.”
“it’s much easier to actually not “give a fuck” if you have other prospects going simultaneously”
What’s the importance of abundance which spinning plates gives us?
“Spinning more plates allows you more opportunity to select from the largest pool of
prospective choices and date them or drop them as you see fit. This has two benefits. First, it serves as valuable, though non-committed, experience for learning what a man requires for his own personal satisfaction. Experience teaches harsh, but it teaches best and the breadth of experience serves a man well. Who’s insight is more beneficial, the man who’s sailed the world over or the man who’s never ventured beyond a lake?
Secondly, opportunity and options make a man the prize. Rock stars, professional athletes and movie stars aren’t irresistible to women because of their celebrity, but because they blatantly, and with the highest form of social proof, prove they have options that other women will jealously compete for as well as the confidence that this unconscious knowledge naturally manifests itself in them.”
Excerpt From
The Rational Male
Tomassi, Rollo
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Plate theory and ranking girls
“Plate Theory is also, most definitely not, a license to be indiscriminate with women. Just because you can spin a plate doesn’t necessarily mean you should spin that plate. Some aren’t worth spinning and a man with options should have no reservation about letting one go for a better one or two. In fact a man ought to be more discriminating in this regard since it affords him the best available from the largest selection.”
“Spinning Plates doesn’t necessarily mean you’re having sex with all of your plates.
It’s more of a spreading out of your efforts across a wider pool of subjects.”
What are the cornerstones of plate spinning and what it implies?
“in practice, non-exclusivity has to be covert. It needs to be implied, not declared. Imagination and competition anxiety paired with implied non-exclusivity are the cornerstones of successful plate spinning.”
“what do you do to establish your plates and be truly, and successfully, non-exclusive with women?”
“you have to communicate your intent to be non-exclusive covertly. Never overtly tell a woman you’ve got other plates than her spinning. Allow her to discover this by your mannerisms, your behaviors, and definitely by your availability to her.
Create value through scarcity, don’t be so available to her, but just enough to keep her interest and allow her mind to consider that maybe you have other options. Even when you don’t.
Fomenting this anxiety is a very useful tool for you while you do get more plates to spin”
How to get confidence?
“confidence derived from the options of non-exclusive women in hand, and from having successfully generated those options in the past.”
“It’s not a numbers game, it’s a non-exclusivity game. The goal isn’t racking up as many women as humanly possible in order to sift through the throng and find that one little golden flower. In fact that’s the key to disaster. There is no Quality Woman, that’s an idealization. Some are better than others of course, but you don’t find the perfect woman, you make the perfect woman. There is no needle in the haystack – that is Scarcity /
ONEitis thinking – the point is to mold yourself and any woman who you do exclusively end up with into your own frame. This is a process that should come before you commit to exclusivity, not after.”
enlightened self-interest
“make a commitment to yourself, promise yourself you wont allow yourself to
let emotionality and conditioned expectations of monogamy dictate what your goals
will be or how you’ll achieve them.
It’s called enlightened self-interest; you cannot help anyone until you’ve first helped yourself.”
When you mustn’t spin a plate?
“The plate spinning Man has no need for this, because he never implies exclusivity to any plate.
Either they accept this or they’re not a plate to consider. Done in a frank, honest, yet indirect way, you will not be a ‘Player’ and you will establish yourself as Man who’s attention is worth a woman competing for.”
What is the coin of female realm society? Why?
“attention is the coin of the realm in female society. The capacity to command attention determines self-esteem, peer status, sexual selectivity, and a host of other factors in a woman’s life, so spinning plates becomes more than just a “which guy am I gonna get with tonight” prospect. This dynamic and these factors are what makes women natural plate spinners. Even when a woman has no intention of ever becoming sexual with a “maybe” guy, his attention still has some value to her. It appeals to the long term prospective for security that’s a continuous subroutine running in her hindbrain. This is the rudimentary psychology behind hypergamy”
Why women uses “slut” to disqualify others?
“Competition anxiety between women is something men can exploit for their own plate spinning, but the reason it is useful is because women so readily use it against each other. For a woman to say another woman is a “slut” translates into an overt betrayal of this unspoken social contrivance.
Essentially she’s saying, “the rules are that women require commitment for sex, but here’s one who’ll never be worthy of any guy’s commitment because she wont play by the rules you suckers think she will.”
She is tacitly disqualified for a man’s commitment and is, at least in the accusing
woman’s mind, a reduced threat in this feminine competition. She becomes exposed in the same game they’re all playing and in being so, loses attention and therefore status and personal esteem.”
What are the 2 biggest benefits of plate theory?
“First, the external – by practicing honest, non-exclusive dating you communicate to your prospective plates that you are in demand. I’ve gone so far as to tell men to foster this sense by never answering the phone from Friday to Sunday evening, even when they have no other plans.
The perception that your attention is sought after increases it’s value – it’s when men are too eager to get with a woman that their attention becomes worthless and interest levels decline. Nothing serves a man better than having 3 or 4 women competing for his exclusive attention and fostering in them that feminine competitive anxiety in as subtle and covert a way as possible.
“Secondly, plate theory is for a man’s own internal benefit. It’s much easier for a man not to give a shit if he truly doesn’t give a shit. It’s far easier to deal with women on the basis of indifference when you have a subconscious knowledge that there are at least 3 other women who’ll be happy to have your attention if one plays games with you.
The reason men fail most shit-tests women give them is because they subconsciously telegraph too much interest in a single woman”
“By practicing Plate Theory, your mental attitude will be such (or should be such) that you will pass most shit-tests based simply on this practice.”
(CBM)
Why is sex should be focused on your own pleasure first?
Cause its a chance for her to prove she’s better than the competition.
Rejection is better than regret
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What’s the best way to change?
If you are in a complete new environment it can be quick. But if you’re with friends and family, change must be slow, subtle and persistent. Otherwise, people will resist to your changing and instill doubt in your head.
Why boys don’t cry?
“Unguarded easily expressed emotion is an evolved feminine trait”
Why your ambition and passions must to came first than women?
“First, it sets his frame and his direction as the one of authority, and his development as the primary; the results of which she and her potential children will benefit from. Secondly, it puts her into a position of chasing after him – essentially his legitimate ambitions and passions become the ‘other woman’ with which she must compete for his attention.”
