Test 2: Love and Communication Flashcards
What is Love?
Feeling, Activity
Communication is the thread that connects…
Sexuality and intimacy; quality affects the relationship and sex
Love tends to have more fascination and exclusiveness with…
Partners; Friendship is foundation for a strong love and relationship
Friend and lovers relationships both have:
Trust, Acceptance, Respect, Confiding, Understanding, Spontaneity
Factors that lead to couples having sex:
Enhance relationship, Meaning fulfilling of closeness, Increase relationship satisfaction, Increase love and commitment for relationship
Love without Sex
Celibacy, Asexuality
Celibacy
Absence from sexual activity; May report a better appreciation of friendship or free up energy for personal growth
Asexuality
Little or no sexual attraction to either sex
John Lee: 6 basic styles of love
Mania, Ludus, Stoge, Agape, Pragma, Eros
Mania
Obsessive and Possessive Love
Ludus
Playful Love
Stoge
Love without fever; Peaceful and Enchanting Affection; usually begins as friendship and deepens to love
Adape
Brotherly love, more abstract and ideal
Pragma
Pragmatic Lovers: Business like in their approach to looking for someone who meets their needs (use logic to meet partner)
Eros
Love of Beauty: Erotic lover, Burn bright but burn quick
Triangular Theory of Love
Developed by Steinberg (1986); dynamic quality of love relationships
Love is composed of 3 elements each element can enlarged or decrease in the cause of the relationship:
Intimacy, Passion, Commitment
Intimacy
Warm close bond feeling
Passion
Romance, attraction & sexuality
Commitment
Short term and long term
Triangular Theory of Love Types
Liking, Infatuation, Romantic love, Companionate love, Fatuous love, Consummate love, Empty love, Non love
Liking
Intimacy Only
Infatuation
Passion Only
Romantic love
Intimacy and Passion
Companionate love
Intimacy and Commitment
Fatuous love
Passion and Commitment
Consummate love
Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment
Empty love
Commitment ONLY
Non love
Absence of all 3
Love as Attachment
Helps understand how adult relationships develop (ex. Infant caregiver attachment, Romantic love); Need to feel emotionally safe and secure
Attachment
Close, Enduring Emotional Bonds
Jealousy
Response that occurs because of a partner’s real or imagined involvement with a 3rd person; Certain amount can be expected with any relationship (Important to communicate about fears and boundaries)
Nature of Communications
Words, Gesture & Movement to establish human content
Nature of Communications takes place within…
Cultural, Social and Psychological Context
Cultural Content
Language that is used and values, belief and customs associated with it
Social Context
role we play in society as members of different groups
Psychological Context
Personality characteristics affect our ability to communicate or manage conflict; assertive, passive, high self esteem/low self esteem
Non-verbal Communication
Proximity, Eye Contact, Touching
Halo effect –
Assumption that attractive or charismatic people also possess more desirable social characteristics
First Move
Marks transition from potentially sexual relationship to one that is
Sexual Communication
Interest & open lines
Talking about sex
There are obstacles to discussion (Intensions, Birth Control, etc.)
Keys to good communications
Self disclosure, Trust, Feedback
Intimate Love, each person knows he/she can count on the other based on:
Commitment, Caring, Self Disclosure
Conflict
Process in which people perceive incompatible goals and interference from others in achieving their goals (Doesn’t necessarily indicate love is disappearing)
