Spark Deep Connections Flashcards
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We are all so deeply interconnected; we have no option but to love all. Be kind and do good for any one and that will be reflected. The ripples of the kind heart are the highest blessings of the Universe
What’s the most powerful tool in the stealth leader kit?
The skill of building connections
Focusing on CONNECTION FIRST, everything else falls into place
Receive social edge to transform any disempowered team, meaning never having to work in toxic environments
When do colleagues thrive?
When the relation between them is not professional. Instead it is open and human
What matters most in order to bring happiness? Out of every other aspect?
The strength of a person’s social connections
Finish off Malsow’s pyramid after Physiological and Safety.
Love and Belonging = To feel Part of a tribe (Friendship)
Self-Esteem = To know I matter (Abundance)
Self-Actualisation = To discover my true potential (Growth)
Self-Transcendence = To rise above personal concerns and see from a higher perspective (Meaning)
How is abundance related to self esteem?
Abundance was never a about money. It was about the respect that people felt money gave them.
Self-Esteem includes confidence, strength, personal and social acceptance, and respect from others. This is what people truly want (end goal), not money (means goal)
How do workplace squander their glorious opportunity for greater success?
Employers gain huge trust. However many companies have little for feelings, vulnerability, or emotional nonsense. They expect to be professional.
Why is being joyful constantly, all the time frankly rubbish?
Emotional states fluctuate from moment to moment. Can move from happy to upset very rapidly.
‘Always on’ positivity is not healthy or useful. It takes away from experiencing true fulfilment. All emotions are useful. Accepting them and feeling them fully is critical
Why aim for positive optimism?
They accept negative emotions as they see it as it is - just a temporary state.
Sadness also has the gift of learning and self discovery. More blissful states come from accepting the sadness
Less reactive to emotions. Trained to be more aware and proactively choose how to react
What 2 questions are unconsciously calculated when meeting someone for the first time?
- Do I trust this person?
- Do I respect this person?
Answering yes to both starts a friendship. Often those who have common values answer yes.
Why is creating an environment of safety and support critical for sparking deep connections?
Being able to celebrate good times and lean on eachother during tough times is a very special experience.
Trash the myth that work needs to be spectate with personal life.
Why is being vulnerable better than hiding pain?
It is biologically hardwired for us to feel love and belonging. This is being vulnerable.
Trying to hide the pain causes even more pain to those around me, rather than protecting them
What is ‘Positive Contagions’?
Moods, just like flu, go viral.
Studies found that leaders who are in a positive mood bring up the moods of their employees, being more helpful to eachother and coordinating tasks more efficiently and with less effort.
Set the tone myself.
The usual measure of social connection is ‘Do you have a lot of social support given to you? Do you have someone to rely on to help?’
What should be asked instead?
Flip the question. Be the type of person who people want to talk to when going through difficult times
Have high levels of compassion
Be initiating social engagements
Be positive and optimistic
