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How can I motivate myself and drastically improve my chance of achieving a goal?
STOP putting so much damn pressure on your self. You CONSTANTLY psych yourself out.
How can you do this?
Re-frame and remind yourself, the key to a life well lived (according to the guides) is living a fulfilling and authentic life!!!! Even when Tyler Henry spoke to deceased famous singers, they never reflected on their accolades or accomplishments, but instead, on the love you felt - bonds they created, fulfilling moments, etc.
The key to a fulfilling life is friendship, kindness, joy/ laugher, and love, so none of the achievements (career, fitness, etc.) that you’re putting pressure on are important to live a regret free life. They’re nice to have but not as important as the things above.
In 2025 I want to..
Let go of self doubt and take more chances on E
Opi Herb Quote
Every change in direction has new problems (i.e. there are tradeoffs in every situation)
It’s important to ask yourself repeatedly
Who do I want to be?
A sign is..
A meaningful coincidence. it has to mean something. It moves something within you and feels uncanny. don’t overthink it or look too much for it
how to be more intuitive?
things that come thru your mind repeatedly without much emotion could be a message. deciphering this from fear/ trauma is difficult and requires self awareness
Souls emphasize that doing xxx is important. There are 2 quotes that I love that emphasize this.
“Stop and smell the roses!!” –> Do it as often as you can. The little things are the big things in life - watching a sunrise, smelling a flower, etc.
“The little things are the big things” –> “The little things become the big things when we pass.” “It’s all about the little moments. It’s NOT about the big accomplishments or what we own.”
What did TH say about beauty?
Beauty starts inside and then comes out
The hard thing to do is..
often the right thing to do
When ppl are on their deathbed what do they talk about most?
Their happiest moments - kids, grandkids, favorite moment of their lives, etc.
Quote on wisdom/ zen which explains that changing locations won’t give us the zen/ peace we want. we need to resolve internal struggle
The only wisdom you find on the mountain top is the wisdom you brought up there.
Same applies to zen. The only zenyou find on the mountain top is the zenyou brought up there.
what is good relationship advice for new parents?
you can make your kids your priority and also have your own identity. have other aspects ofyour life and values. ppl that become obsessed with their kids and stop paying attention to themselves or their partner often end up divorces. they forget that childhood is a temporary state. if done properly, your kids go and live their own lives. your partner will be with you longer, so it’s important and smart to feed that relationship! water the plant!
what is good relationship advice from a divorce lawyer?
pat attention to the you, me and we. you be you because that is who he feel in love with. remember who he is and let him be him. and focus on we - water the relationship. there’s HUGE value in being we and seeing each others blind spots. Help him see his blind spots. Treat your relationship like something valuable because it is! The hard things to say or do, do them. Lean into them. They’re usually the right things.
Love is not permanently gifted to you. It is on loan. My husband is loaned to me - my marriage will either end in divorce or death. So what do I do with this?
A good quote to describe going with the flow of life and not resisting things out of your control
Ride the wave. Don’t fight the current
Death - re-frame
We assume death is bad, but how do we know? maybe what’s happening on earth is the hardest part
if someone is gossiping, being an asshole, speaking negatively, what should i do?
LET THEM. let go of control
what things make you happy to be alive? make time for those things.
How can I be more assertive in an authentic way?
Bring out our passionate side
How can I improve my conversation skills?
get real in conversations. get deep and personal. share your beliefs and opinions. I love talking to Maria and Vlado bc they get real, deep and personal fast
