Resilience, Distortions and Communication Flashcards
Resilient
To bounce back. A process where we learn from negative experiences to BUILD SKILLS to COPE with future challenges.
Four key strengths that can support the building of resiliency
- Social Competence – the ability to form and sustain relationships
- Problem Solving – using critical thinking and decision making skills
- Autonomy – the ability to make personal choices
- Sense of Purpose – a belief that life is important and has meaning
Cognitive distortions
Overgeneralization
Perception about an isolated incident or situation is applied to everything. Ex. I went to a church picnic once and the food was terrible, so I will never attend a church picnic again.
Cognitive distortions
Filtering
A focus on the less positive information within a statement or situation. Ex. Your boss tells you many good things about your performance. She also says it is important to get to work in a timely manner.
Cognitive distortion
Labeling
ASCRIBING extremely NEGATIVE, colorful, and ABSOLUTE language to yourself or others. Ex. I got a D on that test. I am a total loser.
Cognitive distortion
Personalization
The assumption that you caused events that you could not have caused. Ex. My favorite boss just quit. I know it was my fault. If I had been a better employee, she would have stayed.
Cognitive distortion
Fortune Telling
Predicting a negative outcome before anything has happened. Ex. I just know I am going to fail that test.
Cognitive Distortion
All or nothing thinking
Perception that something is always one way or the other. Ex. You never talk nicely to me.
55% of Communication Occurs…
through the use of body language, including stance, facial expression, eye contact, distance from the person(s) we are talking to and posture.
Motivational Interviewing
A way of being with a client, not just a set of techniques for doing counseling
Tools for Motivational Interviewing 1-4
- Express empathy
- Roll with resistance
- Reflective Statements
- Support self-efficacy
Tools used in Motivational Interviewing…5-8
- Ask open-ended questions
- Summarize
- Affirm
- Elicit self-motivational statements
An effective communicator is aware of the following: (1-4)
- They know what they want to achieve
- They know listening is a major part of communication
- They listen using multiple senses
- They are good at understanding the responses they receive
An effective communicator is aware of the following…5-8:
- They have FLEXIBILITY to modify their behaviors until desired outcomes are achieved
- They know building rapport is an ONGOING PROCESS
- They avoid distractions and are “fully present” when communicating with peer clients
Effective conversation does the following:
- Rapport – this involves first impressions, attitudes, mental filters
- Has sensory awareness
- Maintains outcome thinking
- Has behavioral flexibility – remains calm
- Observes the dynamic of listening/talking
- Encourages the other person to talk