Relationships And Familes (Y10 - Autumn 1) Flashcards
The Catholic Church teach that sex should be:
Sex Should Be:
Marital:
- Sex and love is a gift from God.
- Marriage is the ultimate commitment because vows are made in front of God and the community.
Unitive:
- Sex unites the couple and deepen their love.
- They become closer and more committed.
- The couple totally give themselves to each other.
Procreative:
- God creates new life through sex
- There is more intensity in self-giving when open to new life
Quote saying how God creates people in his image:
“God created humans in his image, male and female, he created them.”
(Genesis 1:27)
What do the Catholic Church’s teachings tell us from the quote: “God created humans in his image, male and female, he created them.”
- Human life is the most important thing to God
- Men and women are equal in the eyes of God
- Men and women are complementary to each other (produce a harmony together)
Quotes for Marital, Unitive and Pro-creative:
Marital:
“The sexual act outside of marriage is a grave sin.” (CCC)
Unitive:
“The two shall become one flesh.” (Mark 10:6-9)
Pro-creative:
“Be fruitful and increase in number.” (Genesis 1:27-28)
Catholic Views on Sex Before Marriage
- God gave humans the gift of sex in order the reproduce, so sex should only happen when there is a possibility of new life.
- Casual sex is wrong - it can cause hurt to other. Sex should be with someone you trust and love.
- The gift of virginity makes husband and wife feel special, privileged and loved.
- Waiting until marriage to have sex means there is no risk of sexually transmitting diseases.
- Sex with someone you re not married to trivialises (devalues) the sexual act.
Contrasting Views on Sex Before Marriage
- Pre-marital sex is common, the Catholic Church should accept modern life.
- Everyone has the right to have sex when they are ready.
- Sex before marriage is fine as long as it’s within a loving, long-term relationship - Jesus taught that love is the most important thing.
7 Conditions for a Roman Catholic Marriage to be Valid
- The Marriage must be consummated (have sex)
- Both people must be free to marry
- They both must give consent (I take thee to be my wife/husband)
- They both must marry of free will
- Must not be closely related
- The five vows must be made in front of a Catholic Priest
- Must declare willingness to have/accept children
What 4 things should a Roman Catholic Marriage be? (Backed up with quotes from the Ceremony)
A Roman Catholic Marriage is:
- A Sacrament: “The love of man and woman is made holy in the Sacrament of Marriage”
- Permanent: “I, (name) do take thee, (name) to be my lawful wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”
- Exclusive: “What God has joined together let no man put asunder.”
- Procreative: “… aid and strengthen them in sublime office of being a father or mother.”
The 8 parts of a Marriage Ceremony
- The Greeting
- The Liturgy of the Word (and Homily)
- The Marriage Ceremony
- The Marriage Vows
- Acceptance of Consent and Blessing
- Exchange of Rings
- The Marriage Blessing
- The Signing of the Register
What happens in The Greeting
- The rite, or ceremony of marriage develops the idea that the couple express their love and service of God through their love and service of each other.
- Marriage is a solemn contract between a man and a woman who love each other.
What happens in The Liturgy of the Word (and Homily)
- The priest will talk about the meaning of Christian Marriage and the responsibilities that it requires.
- The priest will mention the dignity of married love and how the couple will grow closer with each other (and God).
What happens in The Marriage Ceremony
-The priest individually questions the couple, with the purpose being to make sure that the bride and groom understand what they are accepting.
-He asks 3 questions:
“Have you come to give yourself to each other, freely and without reservation?”, “Will you love and honour each other for life?”, and “Will you accept children lovingly from God?”
What happens in The Marriage Vows
- This exact point is the moment of the Sacrament. The couple make vows to each other.
- These vows are: “I, (name) do take thee, (name) to be my lawful wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”
What happens in The Acceptance of Consent and Blessing
- The priest who is present represents the people of God, the Church, and accepts the mutual consent of bride and groom with these words.
- The priest then goes to ask God to strengthen and help them , whilst declaring that no man can put this asunder.
What happens in The Exchange of Rings
- The rings are blessed with the words “May the Lord bless these rings which you give to each other as a sign of your love and fidelity”.
- The rings are a true ‘sign of love and fidelity’. The couple have promised to love each other permanently and exclusively for the rest of their lives.
What happens in The Marriage Blessing
- The ideas in this blessing bring out the two important themes of marriage:
- That a husband’s human love for his wife is a model of the love which Christ has for God’s people - the Church.
- That marriage is a relationship based on faithfulness which is plain for all to see.
What happens in The Signing of the Register
- Witnesses and Registrars must be present to sign off the legalities of the marriage.
- A register must be signed, and a marriage certificate must be given to make this marriage lawful.
Contrasting Views on Adultery
- There may be a good reason for this
- Personal happiness is the most important thing in life
- Maybe the couple made a serious mistake in getting married … adultery may be the only way to change an unhappy marriage
Points Against Catholic Views on Cohabitation
- Cohabitation enables the couple to get to know each other - which helps them commit to each otherand may prevent divorce in future
- The only important thing for children id that their parents love each other within a long-term relationship
Catholic Views on Adultery
(Adultery Definition: When a married person has sex with someone who is not their husband/wife)
- Adultery breaks the marriage vows and the ten commandments (‘Do not commit adultery’)
- Jesus says Adultery is wring himself
- It is a betrayal that causes great hurt
- The innocent partner can feel rejected and like a failure
- It destroys trust, brings tension and distress
- It can cause the breakup of a marriage - making children insecure
Why is the Catholic Church against Cohabitation?
The Catholic Church is against Cohabitation because:
- It breaks the sanctity (holiness) of marriage and of sexual love (lack of commitment)
- It can create insecurity for the couple
- It can reduce the need for faithfulness
Points For Catholic Views on Cohabitation
(Cohabitation Definition: Living together as a couple without a formal commitment (if they are in a sexual relationship))
- Married couples are less likely to separate because they receive marriage preparation - and are most likely to seek counselling.
- Marriage us the deepest commitment you can make and the most secure for children.
- Making vows publicly shows your commitment.
- Cohabitation encourages a casual, selfish attitude to the relationship.