relationships Flashcards
what is attractive
- symmetrical face
- unblemished skin
- unblemished teeth
- full hair
- mathematically average features
- men, prominent cheekbone, low deep voice
- women, youth, waist him ratio hourglass
buss
aim
- investigate the role of evolution in attraction and mate selection
buss
procedure
- 29 countries rated how important “good looks” are in choosing a partner
- ratings compared with degree of pathogen stress (number of parasites) to see if any correlation
buss
results
- countries more pathogen stress, more emphasis on good looks
buss
conclusion
- high pathogen stress, healthy partner with strong immune system is more important for successful reproduction
- physical attractiveness is a sign of good health
buss
evaluation
- supports evolutionary theory of attraction, attraction driven by desire to reproduce successfully
- correlational so not proven casual relationship between pathogen stress and importance of good looks
- other differences could explain the correlation
wedekind
aim
- investigate the role of MHC genes in attraction
wedekind
procedure
- men wore shirt 2 nights, no cologne, natural body odour
- female participants rated attractiveness of the smell of the shirts without seeing the men
- of the seven shirts 3 were MHC similar, 3 MHC dissimilar, 1 not worn
wedekind
results
- women who were fertile preferred MHC dissimilar scent shirt
- women birth control prefered the scent MHC similar men
wedekind
conclusion
- fertile women attracted to MHC dissimilar, ensures their children strongest possible immune system
- birth control prefer MHC dissimilar, beneficial to stay close to biological family members
wedekind
evaluation
- supports evolutionary theory of attraction, fertile women attracted to men provide the best chance for children
- existence of pheromones , unsure
- low ecological validity, nobody chooses a mate by tshirt
- unclear how much of a role MHC genes play in attraction in real life, other factors
evolutionary theory of attraction evaluation
- can explain why certain physical features are attractive in every culture and time period
- evidence physical features are associated with good health and reproductive fitness
- buss and wedekind studies support
- considerable cultural variation on what is attractive, other factors influence attraction
- implies attraction is purely biological
why similarity leads to attraction
- consensual validation
share the same values so you feel validated - cognitive evaluation
proud of our beliefs and will evaluate others higher if they have the same ones - opportunity for self expansion
gaining new knowledge and experiences whilst sharing the same interests and goals allows self expansion
why similarity leads to attraction
- consensual validation
share the same values so you feel validated - cognitive evaluation
proud of our beliefs and will evaluate others higher if they have the same ones - opportunity for self expansion
gaining new knowledge and experiences whilst sharing the same interests and goals allows self expansion,change together
markey
aim
- investigate how similarity affects attraction
markey
procedure
- 169 single american university students
- survey on characteristics , values and attitudes of ideal partner
- survey on their own personality and values
markey
results
- high correlation between description of ideal partner and self description
markey
conclusion
- perceived similarity important factor influencing mate selection and attractive
- not much evidence “opposites attract”
markey
evaluation
- large sample size
- all american university students, not generalizable to age/cultural groups
- based on self report instead of actual dating behaviour
- correlational study, casual relationship can’t be formed
- attraction to someone may perceive them as more similar
culture and mate selection
- arranged marriages
- meeting people online
- delaying marriage until later in western countries
- importance given to romantic love, marriage for union or love
buss 1989
aim
- investigate sex and cultural differences in what people look for in a mate
buss 1989
procedure
- 10,000 participant survey 37 countries
- rate importance of different qualities in a mate
buss 1989
results
- women ranked good financial prospects higher than men
- men ranked good looks higher than women
- women prefer slightly older men, men prefer younger
- love ranked most important in the USA less important in traditional cultures
- some cultures value chastity in women, others unimportant
buss 1989
conclusion
- universal sex and cultural differences
buss 1989
evaluation
- supports evolutionary theory of mate selection
- indicates culture plays a role in mate selection
- large sample and variety of cultures, reliable and able to cross cultural compare
- self report results, say what they want instead of what they do
social penetration theory
- close relationships are formed over time, process of self disclosure
- as relationships develop, shallow communication to deeper communication
- one person discloses deep information so will the other causing closer relationship (disclosure reciprocity)
collins and miller
aim
- investigate the relationship between self disclosure, liking and intimacy
collins and miller
procedure
- meta analysis of 94 studies on the topic of self disclosure, variety of research designs
- meta analysis = combination of different studies to reach an overall conclusion
collins and miller
results
- people who shared more intimate facts, generally more liked by others
- greater self disclosure leads to being liked
- people disclose to people they like already, more likely to be accepted and supported
- like others more after because they feel acknowledged and listened to
collins and miller
conclusion
- self disclosure can lead to a positive feedback loop increasing intimacy of a relationship
- self disclosure decreases a relationship, leads to a negative feedback loop
collins and miller
evaluation
- supports self disclosure theory, important factor in increasing liking and closeness in a relationship
- 94 studies, reliable
- limitation, doesn’t explain why some relationships decrease disclosure and liking and others opposite
four horsemen of the apocalypse
gottman
- criticism
verballing attacking personality or characteristics - defensiveness
reversing blame criticising back - stonewalling
withdrawing from the relationship to convey disapproval and distance - contempt
attacking partners sense of self to psychologically abuse them
gottman
aim
- determine how communication affects marital satisfaction and likelihood of divorce
gottman
procedure
- couples in lab, recall a recent disagreement while being filmed
- video analyzed by coding verbal statements and facial emotion
- followed up to see who stayed together and who divorced
gottman
findings
- couples with high criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling significantly more likely to divorce
- predict 91% accuracy which couples would stay together and divorce after viewing one argument
gottman
conclusion
- healthy communication patterns are essential to make relationships last