r/m/f quiz 3 Flashcards
profoundly tender or passionate affection for another person
romantic love
sensual love, defined as sexual attraction to another person
erotic love
develops when someone’s needs are fulfilled by another person; one of the components of durable love (dependency must be equal between adults)
dependent love
implies a type of bond between individuals with common concerns and who enjoy each other’s company; more relaxed and less tense than romantic love; also called compassionate love
friendship love
reflects unselfish concern for the wellbeing of another (nurturing , caring, genuine concern)
altruistic love
what are the three components of love?
intimacy, passion, and decision/commitment
Durability
Approximation of ideals
Satisfaction
Fulfillment of Needs
Criteria for Evaluating Marital Success
3 specific areas of fulfillment of needs
psychological needs, social needs, sexual needs
for love, affection approval, and self-fulfillment
psychological needs
for friendship, companionship, and new experiences
social needs
for both physical and psychological sexual fulfillment
sexual needs
a consistent characteristic of distressed couples
negative affect reciprocity
characteristic of unhappy marriage where one raises and pursues issues and the other avoids discussion and tends to withdraw
demand-withdraw pattern
four “horsemen” that lead to unhappy marriages
criticism, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling/listener withdrawal
one of the most important requirements in a successful marriage; when effective it involves the ability to express/exchange ideas, facts, feelings, etc
communication
expectation that needs will be met; varies from couple to couple; agreement on how to show it and how often
affection
most basic human need; isnt a need to criticize or demean another person to build themselves up
admiration and respect
shared views of morals and values
spirituality and values
quality time; enjoy each other’s company, share common interests and have fun together
companionship
accountability for one’s own behavior - no blame game; mutual assumption, sharing, and division of responsibility in the family
responsibility
have stable but NOT static marriages
maintaining moderately high to high satisfaction
general positive affection and interaction throughout the years
stable/positive
never experience emotional closeness, but marry for other reasons
generally comfortable with each other
no excessive conflict
stable/neutral
primarily experience negative emotions throughout marriage- manifested as hostility and indifference
lack of positive feeling
little joy
feeling of duty
stable/negative
satisfaction is high early in marriage
drops during middle years
rises again after children leave the home
curvilinear
partners experience gradual and more or less continuous decline in marital satisfaction
continuous decline
derive increasing satisfaction as years pass
continuous increase
we select partners who will fulfill our own needs- both complementary and instrumental (opposites attract)
needs theories
the psychodynamic theories (2)
parent image theory & ideal mate theory
a person is likely to marry someone resembling their parent of the opposite sex
parent image theory
people tend to marry someone who fulfills their fantasy of what an ideal mate should be like, based partly in early childhood experiences
ideal mate theory
a process of filtering and weeding out ineligible and incompatible people until one person is selected
developmental process theories
the process of modifying, adapting, and altering individual and couple patterns of behavior and interaction to achieve maximum satisfaction
marital adjustment
