Power Paradox Flashcards

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Power is granted in exchange

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for improving the lives of others in our social networks. It is granted to us by other people.

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2
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The reputation of an individual is used to

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mark their capacity for power and check against abusers.

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3
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Your power is only as good

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as your reputation

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4
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Gossip is a sophisticated means by which individuals

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can spread information that feeds reputations.

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5
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By strategically giving esteem to individuals

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groups encourage those in power to continue to act in ways that are good for the group

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6
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Having enduring power is a privilege that depends

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on other people continuing to give it to us.

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7
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Power is gained and maintained

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through focus on others.

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8
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Social practices for power

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empathizing, giving, expressing gratitude, telling stories.

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9
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Life is made up of patterns: of eating, thirst, sleep, courtship, sex, creativity are crucial to our survival.

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Wisdom is the ability to perceive these patterns and to shape them into coherent chapters within the longer narratives of our lives.

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10
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Power is About Altering the States of Others

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11
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2.

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Power is part of every relationship and interaction

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12
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3.

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Power is found in every day actions

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13
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4.

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Power comes from empowering others in social networks

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14
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5.

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Groups give power to those that advance the greater good

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15
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Groups construct reputations that determine the capacity to influence.

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16
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Groups reward those who advance the greater good with status and esteem

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17
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Groups punish those who undermine the greater good with gossip.

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18
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Enduring Power comes from empathy, giving, expressing gratitude, and telling stories that unite.

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19
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10.

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Power leads to empathy deficits and diminished moral sentiments

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20
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Power leads to self serving impulsivity

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21
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Power leads to incivility and disrespect

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22
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Power leads to narratives of exceptionalism

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23
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Powerlessness involves facing environments of continuous threat

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24
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15.

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Stress defines the experience of powerlessness

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25
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Powerlessness undermines the ability to contribute to society

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26
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Powerlessness causes poor health

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27
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The difference we make in the world is quotidian:

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raising the right question, offering encouragement, connecting people who don’t know each other, suggesting a new idea. Power hinges on simply doing things that are good for others.

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28
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Charles Darwin changed the world but much of his evidence came from the network he created.

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He wrote fifteen hundred letters a year, four a day, to collaborators: missionaries, neurologists, mds, fur trappers, gardeners. His writings are an expression of many ideas from all walks of life.

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29
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Power is distributed across social networks

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and is found in empowering others.

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30
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Power is never the property of an individual

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it belongs to a group and remains in existence only so long as the group keeps it together.

31
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Behaviour is infectious. Power is found in

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empowering others in our social network

32
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When an individual’s acts violate the greater good, the group will resort to

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gossip and other reputations damage to diminish the influence of that individual.

33
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Any action an individual engages in or more generally a persons character:

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can be given a greater good score: the degree to which it benefits others and does not bring harm.

34
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Big five empowering social tendencies

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Enthusiasm, Kindness, Focus, Calmness, Openess

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Enthusiasm

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pro: reach out to others

con: avoid social contact
Highest correlation with th acquisition of power

36
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Kindness

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Pro: cooperate, share, give

Con: exploit others for own gain

37
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Focus

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Pro: focus on shared goals, rules
Con: neglect shared goals, rules

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Calmness

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Pro: Instill calm, perspective
Con: complain, be defensive

39
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Openess

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Pro: be open to others ideas
Con: disregard others ideas

40
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Groups give us power when we are enthusiastic,

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speak up, make bold assertions and express an interest in others.

41
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Kindness causes our influence to rise when we express

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appreciation, cooperate and dignify what others say and do.

42
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We are more likely to make a difference in the world when we are

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focused, articulate clear purposes and courses of action, and keep others on task

43
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We rise in power when we provide calm and remind people of

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broader perspectives during times of stress, tell stories that calm during times of tension, and practice kind speech.

44
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Our opportunity to influence increases when we are

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open and ask great questions, listen to others with receptive minds, and offer play ideas and novel perspectives.

45
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Hunter gatherer power:

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generous, brave in combat, wise in making subsistence or military decisions, apt at resolving intragroup conflicts, a good speaker, fair, impartial and open, reliable (focused), tactful (calm), morally upright, strong and assertive (enthusiastic but humble.

46
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Reputations create opportunities for influence.

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If you have a reputation for advancing the greater good, people will direct more resources to you.

47
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People with reputations for being selfish tend to

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be placed in more peripheral places in social networks.

48
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Reputations provide feedback for making

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an individual aware of the effect of their action upon others.

49
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Pre-industrial cultures hold the status of the individual

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in relation to the amount of food they share

50
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Surges of power makes the individual experience higher levels of

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excitement, inspiration, euphoria, joy, all of which enable purposeful, goal directed action.

51
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At the same time, surges of power make him or her less aware

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of the risks that attend to any course of action.

52
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Key to lasting power:

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stay focused on other people. Prioritize others interests as much as your own. Bring the good in others to completion and do not bring the bad in others to completion. Take delight in delights of others, as they will make a difference in the world.

53
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A first source of enduring power is to focus on what others feel.

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Look and listen for the rich language and emotional expression in your social life. Doing this will let you navigate daily interactions in much more sophisticated ways that enhance the greater good.

54
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Second source of enduring power is to give to others.

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There are many rewards we can give to others from the tangible brackets food to the symbolic money to the social respect insurance up rewards we will find in during power for the beneficiaries of such generosity give power to those who share.

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Third source of enduring power

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is to practice gratitude. By expressing gratitude to others, what they do and who they are, we give them the most cherished award; been esteemed. Expressions of gratitude provide opportunities for building in during influence and strong ties

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Fourth step to enduring power

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is to tell stories that unite others and common cause. telling stories is a universal human want. It gives entertainment and the transmission of knowledge and helps build the strong ties that are vital to making a difference in the world

57
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Lincoln’s Genius was

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rooted in the practical and knowing the minds of others. His enduring power centred on his ability to focus on other people and understand what they felt.

58
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We can increase our empathy in so many ways.

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We can ask open ended questions.
We can listen actively and empathetically. Orienting or attention to what others are saying in group conversations we can rely on the art of quiet and silence to encourage others to voice their views and to avoid the tendency to interrupt we can make sure to ask others what they would do in any situation before offering advice.
We can ask those who might feel like they have less power for their opinions.

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Touching and being touched is one of the simplest and oldest ways

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in which people provide rewards to others the basis of enduring power

60
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We can provide rewards to others in so many ways through sharing,

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encouraging, sacrificing, affirming, valuing, giving responsibilities,

61
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We express gratitude in many ways through

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emails, eye contact, deferential bows, and embraces, and by acknowledging and validating public what someone has said. Gives the recipient a reward.

62
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Expressions of gratitude create contagious goodwill within social networks.

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Expressions of gratitude are indeed a most sacred virtue. Found an active touch. And the spoken word and the recognition that empowers others, they are a daily basis during power.

63
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Telling Stories that Unite

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People who tell more coherent stories about their lives, with clear plot lines, character and organizing passions, are physically healthier and find greater purpose later in life.

To the extent that are stories have narrative coherence and encourage others we empower them towards similar ends.

64
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Power makes us feel less dependent on others

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shifts our focus away from others to our own goals and desires.

The simple shift inattention takes us away from the practises that enable us to gain power in the first place.

65
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if power makes us impulsive,

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powerlessness makes us reserved.

66
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Threats that devalue a person’s social identity are

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particularly potent triggers of cortisol release and elevated cytokine level.s.

67
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powerlessness enables empathy and understanding other’s mental states

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but undermines rigour of thought and quality fo decision making.

68
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It hugely pays todo things that dignify the less powerful,

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to show that they are worthy like anyone else.

69
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A.Be Aware of your Feelings of Power

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real power means enhancing the greater good. Use desires of power to push you in this direction.

70
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B. Practice Humility

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Power is a gift, it is the authority, bestowed upon by others, to make a difference in the world. It can be taken away if abusd. People who enact power with humility enjoy more enduring power.

To influence others is a privilege. To have power is humbling. the more we approach out power and capacity to influence others with humility. the greater our power is. Don’t be impressed by your own work— stay critical of it. There is always more work to do if others have entrusted you with authority.

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C.Stay Focused on Others and Give

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The most direct path to power is through generosity. Give resources, money, time, respect, and power to others. In these acts of giving we empower others in our social networks, enhancing our own ability to make a difference int he world. The more we empower others, the more the greater good is increased. So give in many ways, especially in ways that empower.

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D.Practice Respect.

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By respecting others, we dignify them and elevate their standing.
Respect emerged out of the patterns of mutual deference and sharing in our hominid ancestors and is seen in primates today.
That all members of our social collective deserve some basic form of dignity is an ancient basis of equality and it is expressed in our day to day lives through respect.
Ask Questions. Listen with intent. Be curious about others. Acknowledge them. Compliment with praise and gusto.Express Gratitude

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E.Change the Psychological context of Powerlessness

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work to unroot the sources of powerlessness that are alight to so many, racism, sexism, agism, income inequality,