Personality Flashcards
How understanding personality can help couples work on strengthening relationship skills
What is personality?
Personality is the set of characteristics that lead to consistent patterns of feeling, thinking, and behaving and it tends to stay stable over time.
Why is it useful to understand your own personality as well as your partner’s?
(1) Insight into personality can help when you and your partner work on strengthening relationship skills.
(2) Your personality frames how you approach life.
(3) For some couples, having very different personalities can bring challenges into their relationship.
(4) Couples are encouraged to embrace each other’s personalities (instead of trying to change your partner’s personality) and continue to build relationship skills.
What is the SCOPE Personality assessment?
SCOPE measures FIVE factors of personality (Social, Change, Organized, Pleasing, Emotionally calm) to help individuals see how high or low they score on each factor.
It is possible to score high (or low) on all five factors and it is not negative to be high or low on a particular factor.
If a particular factor is so extreme and is interferring with daily life, an individual might want to consider seeking professional help.
If your partner scored high on Social (He/She is an extrovert) while you scored low on Social (You are an introvert), give an example of how would you plan for weekend activities.
Think creatively to brainstorm on possible ideas that appeal to both personalities. Perhaps you might want to strike a balance by going out on a Saturday lunch or dinner gathering with relatives or friends while reserving Sunday for home-based activities or projects with just the two of you.
What should you do if personality is an area of your relationship you want to continue to explore?
Consult professionals in Marriage and Family therapy or other alternatives on how you could take another personality assessment to continue learning more about each other’s personality.
