Peaceful Parent Happy Kids

Question 1

4 steps of emotionally coaching your child

Answer 1

1. Calm yourself
2. Create safety - be calm and caring. touch reassuringly
3. Acknowledge & Empathize - state what you see and show you understand their feelings
4. Tell the story - after everyone is calm, recap what happened and explore alternative solutions.

Question 2

The 3 R’s to use in place of discipline

Answer 2

1. Reflection - Empathize with the child and allow them to tell you their version of what happened.
2. Responsibility - Explore the different responses the child could have taken and establish what a good course of action could have been together
3. Repair - Show the child how to repair the situation

Question 3

The 3 forms of empathizing from peaceful parent

Answer 3

1. Verbally: Acknowledging your childs feeligs with your words.
2. Physically: Hugs, rubs, and touches that transmit warmth, love, and understanding
3. Reflection: Acknowledging your child’s feelings after an event has passed, later in the day.

Question 4

The 5 aspects of preventative maintenance from peaceful parent.

Answer 4

1. Empathy
2. Special Time
3. Routine
4. Laughter & Roughhousing
5. Welcoming emotions

Question 5

8 Steps of mediating sibling arguments/fights

Answer 5

1. Intervene to stop the fight (help a injured child first)
2. Breathe deeply and use a calm voice
3. Bring kids together and put your arms around each one
4. Give each kid a chance to tell their story and demonstrate understanding
5. Re-state family rules
6. Coach each child through expressing their feelings
7. Coach each child to restate how the other feels
8. Raise the possibility of repair and problem solving